Everyone sometimes wants to fix the past. A careless word, a violent emotion, a sharp conflict - all this sometimes makes us reproach ourselves for not holding back in time, not calming down, not waiting for an unpleasant moment. It becomes especially difficult later when an understanding of one's own wrong and undeserved resentment of other people comes. Of course, what has been done cannot be returned, but with the help of a psychological method we will try to correct the past.
Instructions
Step 1
Relax. Sit or lie down in a comfortable, relaxed position. Immerse yourself in the past, in an unpleasant situation that you would like to fix.
Step 2
Feel all your emotions and re-experience all the experiences that you experienced at that time. Enter the situation and relive it from beginning to end, remembering all its details to the smallest detail.
Step 3
Pause. Analyze how you are feeling now. Think about how unpleasant experiences from the past can pull you back and hinder your progress if you keep them in mind all the time. Let the pause last until you calm down.
Step 4
Now remember the beginning of the situation. Start to relive it and mentally, step by step, simulate its development that you think is correct. Do not hold back, loosen the control over your mental behavior. Do as you want, as you see fit.
Step 5
Continue to simulate the situation, understanding and anticipating reactions to your behavior in other people. Be honest, respect equality. If you are not holding yourself back, let the other participants in the situation also do not hold back.
Step 6
Mentally ask your opponents about the reasons for their behavior and tell about your feelings and experiences, about your motivation. Perhaps you will come in your thoughts to new conflicts. It's okay, live through these conflicts and don't forget to analyze your feelings.
Step 7
Develop the situation in this way until the unpleasant or, perhaps, the conflict state exhausts itself and stops. If you feel satisfied, then everything was done correctly.
Step 8
Remember and mentally reproduce several times such a development of events that you liked and caused positive emotions. Remember this state.
Remember, you can't fix the past. You can change your attitude towards him and avoid making similar mistakes in similar situations, which will surely arise in order to test your strength.
