The image of a "good girl" is embedded in the heads of women since childhood. Often, non-compliance with it is followed by moralizing parents and public censure. The result of "correct" upbringing can be a heavy dependence on the opinions of others, which is expressed by the desire to be good always and for everyone. This quality can literally poison the life of even an adult woman. It is very important to stop being too good, and you need to do it on time.
Instructions
Step 1
Most likely, you were long and diligently taught that having your own desires and wanting to live for yourself is terry selfishness. You are used to constantly sacrificing yourself for the sake of someone's good mood. Take a blank sheet of paper and write down a dozen of your desires. They should only belong to you, not your parents, friends, or husband. Think if there is something bad in them, could they harm someone? Would it make you worse if they came true?
Step 2
With rare exceptions, the suppression of female emotions is cultivated in families. Women's anger is considered completely inappropriate, and from the cradle, women are taught to be gentle and patient. Realize that you have every right to your feelings and emotions. Allow yourself to express your feelings, for example, during an argument, say or write that you are annoyed and angry.
Step 3
You have many requirements for yourself, but for others? How often do you put up with boring companies, boring conversations, poorly brewed coffee, a draft? Learn to be direct and open about what you don't like. Confidently refuse offers that are not interesting to you. Nothing bad will happen. Do not tolerate rudeness towards yourself, learn to fight back with witty phrases that are suitable for the situation. To stop being too good is to set boundaries and not let anyone cross them.
Step 4
Don't be afraid to make mistakes. It is always easier for parents to scold for failures than to praise for achievements, so “good girls” live with an eternal fear of disappointing those around them. Try everything that attracts, ignore criticism, stop mourning old relationships and start new ones. Everyone has mistakes, they won't make you worse. It is also an invaluable experience.
Step 5
Make time for yourself often, whether it's beauty treatments, hobbies, walks, or sleep. You can make loved ones happy only by being charged with happiness yourself. Do not take on all the things at work and at home, they never end, thereby feeding your guilt complex. Learn to accept help. Do not solve the problems of relatives and friends for material or temporary damage to yourself.
