One of the most frequently asked questions that psychologists hear is how to become a more self-confident person. Women especially often ask them. After all, ladies today have to perform many different functions and combine typically female roles with male ones. Against this background, their self-esteem quite often falls, and the fairer sex does not know how to raise it.
Psychologists share two types of self-doubt: external and internal. In the case of the second, all experiences are hidden in the soul of the lady, her torment has no way out. In the second situation, the lady brings all worries and doubts to the public. And she does this completely unconsciously. However, her lack of self-confidence is so visible to others that they easily reward a woman with the status of "notorious". It is necessary to fight in both the first and second cases. Otherwise, it will be quite difficult to achieve success in life. It is worth starting with psychological work on yourself. To do this, you will need paper and a pen. Carefully write down and describe all the actions and situations that trigger your panic attacks. You need to complete this task in as much detail as possible, indicating exactly what preceded the panic attack and caused the desire to run away. Remember that you will have to analyze these records later, so try to compose them in as much detail as possible. At the same time, you should not think that the more records you have, the more worthless you are. On the contrary! Psychologists assure that the more records you have, the more successful and courageous person you become. Be sure to learn to find pleasure in spending time with yourself. Try to understand what kind of person you really are, what you are interested in, what you would like to do. One of the main conditions for finding harmony is the ability to get along with yourself. And in practice, this is exactly what it turns out to be a very difficult task. You need to make yourself a habit of praising yourself. Yes, at first it will be very difficult to give yourself compliments for the most mundane activities, such as washing dishes or cleaning the floor. However, over time, this will become a habit, and it will no longer seem to you that you are doing something so insignificant that it is not visible to others and does not cause them any respect. It should be remembered that seemingly trifling domestic work is actually evaluated by specialists as very hard and difficult work. Therefore, you can quite afford to praise yourself for your household chores. The same goes for your job. We handed in the report a little ahead of time - be sure to compliment yourself, successfully completed the boss's instructions - praise yourself. However, if something goes wrong, and things go wrong, you should not scold yourself. Remember, negative experiences are experiences too. So just draw your own conclusions, again find something to praise yourself for, and keep improving. Of course, the process of gaining self-confidence is unthinkable without changing your wardrobe. It has been proven that ladies who suffer from various complexes choose dark clothes of neutral tones for themselves - one that will help them remain invisible in the crowd. If you want to be known as a successful and self-confident person, be sure to update your wardrobe, replenishing it with bright dresses, skirts or jewelry. And the lack of money should not become a problem - start sewing. At the same time, a new hobby will appear, and self-confidence will noticeably increase. Set yourself a goal that seems impossible to you, and in spite of everything, achieve it. Nothing boosts self-esteem and self-confidence like doing the impossible.
