Self-confidence is an important quality that allows a person to successfully cope with the many challenges that life puts before him. To develop it, you need to make some effort, while the main thing is a burning desire to change oneself, get rid of shortcomings.
Necessary
- - desire to change yourself;
- - self-confidence.
Instructions
Step 1
Remember that self-doubt is determined by the fear lurking in the mind. In this case, the main one is the fear of how others will perceive your words, actions, appearance, what they will think of you, etc. etc. Knowing the reason for the uncertainty, you can fight it.
Step 2
You have to do something and you are insecure. Imagine that the worst thing that can happen in this situation has already happened. Accept it internally, accept it as a fact. For example, a guy wants to meet a girl (or vice versa), but is afraid to take the first step - to come up, say something. Fears: they will laugh at him, he will be denied reciprocity, he will look very stupid.
Step 3
Once in such a situation, assess your fears and agree that all of this can happen. Moreover, accept the negative outcome as already accomplished, feel it. Everything has already happened, you have nothing to fear anymore. Therefore, nothing prevents you from approaching the girl and saying the first words.
Step 4
Use tactics for small accomplishments. Find small daily challenges for yourself and overcome them. They can be outwardly quite insignificant - to ask someone about something, to do something in front of others. As you overcome your insecurity about the little things, you will gradually begin to notice that it is becoming easier for you to communicate with people.
Step 5
If you have a big task ahead of you, break it down into a series of small steps, and then focus on taking them one at a time. This approach gives good results - you stop seeing a big complex task, instead of it there are a large number of small actions, each of which individually does not look so scary.
Step 6
Always remember that the vast majority of people don't care about you. They don't care how you look, what you say, how you behave, etc. etc. If you are walking down the street, looking down and blushing at the thought that others are looking at you and may think something negative, relax - they are interested in their own problems and concerns, but not you.
Step 7
Learn to smile. Smiling is a great way to relieve stress. Smile, even if you are in the wrong mood for this, and you will immediately feel the fear and stiffness go away. The effectiveness of a smile as a means of dealing with insecurity, stiffness, stress is explained purely physiologically: people smile when they feel good and comfortable. By smiling in a situation where you cannot smile, you trigger a feedback mechanism that allows you to relax and feel more confident.
Step 8
Choose the image of a totem animal, which, in your imagination, is associated with strength, agility, confidence. Then try to feel like him. For example, walking down the street, imagine yourself as a lion. The lion is the king of the jungle, no one and nothing can resist him. Feel his strength, calm gracefulness, a certain laziness caused by the feeling of your own power. Get into the image and you will see that the insecurity goes away, it is much easier for you to cope with what causes your fears.
