Sometimes we all like to chat about our colleagues or acquaintances. It's good if this information is reliable. But, in turn, being a victim of gossip, we are often lost and do not know how to react to the situation. It is almost impossible to prosecute the person who disseminated inaccurate data.
How to behave?
As a rule, extraordinary, bright personalities become the subject of gossip. If you feel like an individual, gossip about yourself is best treated with irony. But there is a category of professional gossips who purposefully and deliberately spread disinformation. The goals of such people can be very different: dismissal from office, harming the family or personal life of an opponent, discrediting a person in society.
If you care about your reputation, you can talk to someone who discusses your personal life. The likelihood that the gossip will lose interest in you, in this case, is high.
Tips on how to avoid gossip
In order not to become the subject of gossip in the team, you need to talk as little as possible about yourself, your plans, and your family. By doing this, you will not give rise to gossip: if there is no information, there is no pretext for discussion. By choosing politics, art or culture as a topic for communication, you narrow the range of information about yourself as much as possible. There is a tried and true way to deal with gossip - a step forward. This means that you need to act proactively. Have you heard rumors about a non-existent affair with your boss, or have you been seen in the company of a classmate? Make an appointment with your boss and leave the door half open. Express your thoughts correctly, without making excuses, without worrying. As it was said in the famous film, we will take caress! Maintaining friendly and sincere relations with colleagues, neighbors and acquaintances, you will be able to neutralize negative situations, if not 100%, then half - for sure.
If you are a gossip target, then:
- do not protest too much, even if you are hurt to the quick;
- apply the method of shock therapy, start to agree with what they say about you, but this should be done in a comic and ironic form;
- in any situation, control yourself and your emotions;
- try to talk to the gossip in private;
- time is the best helper, in no case focus your attention on rumors, over time everything will work out.
Either way, try to forgive people for their curiosity. Analyze the situation and find out the reasons for the rumors. If you can't get along with the gossip spreader, eventually stop communicating with him. But if the gossip went beyond what was permissible, it is likely that a battle plan will have to be developed. Act wisely, steadily, with dignity, without losing your composure.
