Most psychoanalysts are sure that complexes come into adulthood from childhood. And they become so habitual that getting rid of them is not at all easy. You need serious work on yourself. And sometimes the help of a specialist.
Instructions
Step 1
If you decide to fight your complexes, determine if they really exist. To do this, you need to listen to the opinion of strangers about yourself. Especially when it comes to appearance. And doubts about their own attractiveness very often arise in women. To build self-esteem, attend a training session on this issue. On it you will hear reviews about the appearance of strangers. Most likely they will be positive.
Step 2
If there are any flaws, they need to be worked on. Excess weight is easy to lose if you stick to proper nutrition and exercise at least every other day. Imperfect skin is corrected by a beautician and with the help of medications prescribed by a doctor. Not very straight teeth after six months of wearing braces become ideal, etc. The main thing is to decide for yourself that you really want to get rid of the shortcomings and are ready to fight them.
Step 3
If the complexes are not related to appearance, determine their cause. If you're afraid to voice your opinion, your parents may have been too authoritarian and didn't give you any freedom at all. But that was in childhood. Now you are an adult independent person who has the right to vote. And even if sometimes you say things that others do not like, this is your point of view. The rest may agree with her or not, but they are obliged to listen. Therefore, feel free to join any conversation and express your thoughts.
Step 4
Very often, people who have recently left adolescence are complex when meeting the opposite sex. Virtual communication will help here. When you do not see the interlocutor, it is much easier to talk to him. And when you get to know each other enough, make an appointment in real life. And most importantly, don't worry. You have known this person for a long time, albeit virtually. In addition, if the image from the Internet does not correspond to reality, you can immediately leave under a plausible pretext. But it’s better to have a talk with the newcomer. Think of it as communication training before meeting your real soul mate.
