Many of the complexes that you experience in adulthood originate from childhood. Primary emotions and impressions are so strong that labels, careless words, ill-conceived circumstances, or just accidents affect the perception of the world in the future.
Instructions
Step 1
Open your eyes to the existing problem. You need to admit to yourself that your complex really exists and these are not just empty words that have no real basis. Only after that does it make sense to move on, otherwise any actions will be ineffective.
Step 2
You have to find out what exactly repeats itself in your life year after year. These can be setbacks in your personal life (changing one partner to another, which in the end turns out to be exactly the same as the previous one), recurring somatic illnesses, situations in which you find yourself with enviable regularity, etc. If you identify this monotonous pattern of behavior that "haunts" you even when circumstances change, then this will become the basis of your complex - something that you have to work on thoroughly.
Step 3
You must analyze the emotions and thoughts that come to you when you find yourself in an unpleasant, repetitive situation. Usually these are affirmative phrases that can repeat the meaning of what was experienced very vividly in childhood. For example, if a child lacked attention and love, then in adulthood any failure in his personal life will be accompanied by a statement that no one loves him. Now you will know that there is a looping in the situation, as soon as you mentally or aloud say the key phrase - immediately switch, start thinking in a different, opposite direction. This technique will allow you to neutralize the negative coloring - your task is to develop a new habit.
Step 4
Develop a new model of behavior. By realizing what makes you fail over and over again and learning how to act at the tipping point, you must replace your habitual negative perceptions with a new scenario. Imagine what you want to get out of the situation, feel this alternative and live as if it has already happened. So you will form a new model of behavior and get rid of the child complex. Always encourage yourself and think of yourself in a positive way - remember how many people love, appreciate and care about you. And if the cause of children's complexes was the wrong behavior of the parents, then realize that your grievances are empty and unproductive. Break away from the past through positive visualizations.
