When a person needs consolation, someone must come to his aid. Sadness and grief can be so unbearable and painful that it affects the psyche, physical and emotional health. The most important thing is to make it clear to the person that he is not alone, that he is heard, that you share with him his grief and suffering.
Instructions
Step 1
Listen. A grieving and saddened person, at times, just needs someone nearby, who will be silent, listen to him, will only nod back and hold his hand. Make sure you look him in the eye as you listen. Focus on it.
Step 2
Dissolve in a person to try to share his trouble. An inconsolable person does not have the mental strength to hear about your suffering or your even sadder experiences. Most often, he is immersed in himself, in his inner hard struggle, comprehension of what happened. It will be enough to be present nearby. Healing comes when an inner person experiences his misfortune. If you talk about your problems, distract him, you will interrupt his self-medication.
Step 3
Be patient. Consolation will come by itself if a person allows his feelings to pour out into emotions - screaming, anger, tears, hysteria, anger, rage. Let him be himself at this moment, do not stop (unless he begins to harm himself). In the end, everything will end with sadness and consolation. Each person goes through his own process of comprehension, experience, and he has the right to do so.
Step 4
Give the person as much time as they need to grieve. Persuasions and admonitions such as "come to your senses", "pull yourself together", you will not help him to be comforted faster. Probably even make him angry.
Step 5
Show your attitude and support with a hug, a handshake, or a sad expression. Try not to get annoyed if your best friend suddenly starts to ignore and push you away. This will pass over time, when the pain and suffering will subside a little.
Step 6
Get the grieving person to seek professional help if they have been deeply depressed and apathetic for a long time. Do your best to arrange an appointment with your doctor to discuss the need for consultation or treatment with him.
