When a person sees problems with a friend, relative, loved one, of course, he wants to somehow help him get out of a difficult situation. But it can be very difficult to direct the thoughts of another person in the right direction, to convince, to give the right advice.
Instructions
Step 1
Making a decision yourself is sometimes quite difficult. The problem and the options for its solution are spinning in my head, and now there are doubts about what to choose so as not to face failure in the future. At this moment, many turn to another person for a solution to the problem - a friend, a relative, in the hope that he will be able to look at the problem from a distance, from a different angle. If you happen to be this friend, remember a few tricks with which you can help a person in a problem and not harm him at the same time.
Step 2
Discuss the situation together. Pronouncing the problem and options for its solution in some situations perfectly helps to resolve the issue, therefore, perhaps, already at this stage, you can help a person find the most correct option. Otherwise, your unbiased and detached opinion can guide your friend's thoughts.
Step 3
Understand the problem deeply, think over the pros and cons with a friend. One of the main mistakes when making decisions will be superficial attention to the problematic issue. When a person looks only at part of the question, he does not think about the other side of the situation. Such a superficial grasp of unresolved moments can play a cruel joke with him, then the decision often turns out to be wrong. Always understand someone else's problem to the end, because now you are responsible for advice in someone else's difficult situation.
Step 4
Think about the person's interests, not yours. Oftentimes, this advice is required by overly caring parents, husbands, wives, or best friends. In making decisions, they think more not about the desires of a person, but about their interest in his problem or the interest of the whole family. So it turns out that such help actually forces a person to solve someone else's problems besides his own. If you are asked to figure it out and come to the right conclusions, do not mix your own interests with the solution of the problem, take the side of the person and sincerely help him.
Step 5
Don't impose your point of view. In other people's troubles, people know exactly what to do, they gladly give advice and feel offended if their advice is not used. Any of your help in solving the problem will be necessary for a person, but it is not necessary to insist that you are right. It may also happen that your opinion will convince a person of the correctness of his position, not yours. And this will also be a huge help for him, since thanks to you he found his solution.
Step 6
Do not shift responsibility for solving someone else's problem onto yourself. If you persuade your friend or relative too hard, it is possible that later he will blame you for the wrong decision. Let him put an end to his problem himself, then the responsibility for the conclusions drawn will fall on him. Let the person make the final decision and respect their opinion.
Step 7
Give time, you don't need to rush the person to find the right path as quickly as possible. Difficult issues need to be pondered until there is strong confidence in the decision. Therefore, do not rush or pressure your friend.
