Mistrust causes constant tension, tension or suspicion in any relationship, provokes conflicts. As if he says: "You should not relax in the presence of this person." It is impossible to give advice - do this and that, and you will trust anyone 100%. To cope with your mistrust, you need to conduct a small revision of your feelings, sort out your own ideas about the world and about yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze what your distrust means to you. More often than not, it seems to protect, protects from something that you are not going to experience again (or even for the first time). You don't want to go through pain, so you are afraid to fully open up to your partner, rely on him, trust and relax in a relationship with him. The fear of opening up, being deceived again can corrode a relationship that, on the contrary, you want to fix and improve.
Step 2
Take responsibility for your own feelings. Suspicion, suspicion, fear, doubt - arise in you. And no one around you is responsible for your feelings. You are responsible. Fighting feelings, as well as fighting distrust, is useless. This is your natural reaction to what is happening. Accept it and do not expect others to take you under their wing and never cheat. Evaluate the capabilities and "talents" of those around you judiciously.
Step 3
Reconsider your view of the obligations of others to you and your own: what do they owe you, what does your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend owe you? And what do you owe them? It is unlikely that anyone, even from the closest people, took it upon themselves to fully protect your peace of mind. Lower your expectations for others - they cannot and should not live up to them. Neither can you live up to other people's expectations.
Step 4
Learn to accept your loved ones for who they are. Accept their independence and autonomy. Believe in the best qualities of loved ones, in difficult situations, remember their good and strong sides, and not mistakes. Recruiting positive experiences is a good way to overcome mistrust. A very effective way is also a mental wish for good to a person whom you do not trust - this will calm you down and add positiveness to the situation.
Step 5
Develop self-confidence, value yourself for your qualities, engage in your own development - i.e. switch attention from another to yourself. Mistrust arises from the uncertainty that you can handle an unpredictable situation or one that you fear. The reason is not so much the behavior of another person whom you now do not trust, but rather in your fear of pain, disappointment and unjustified expectations. Increase your stress tolerance and independence. Be clear about your circles of influence. You should understand what you can influence and what you cannot change. For example, you cannot change another person or past.
Step 6
Also learn to accept life situations and then release them into the past. To accept is to admit the possibility of their existence. And letting go means being able to say goodbye. It often happens that a loved one has changed a long time ago, and you are not able to cope with your own mistrust, you are still worried about what happened. So, in these moments it is important to say to yourself: yes, there are bad things in life, but it passes. It is important to be glad that you, too, have passed this stage, withstood and coped. And live in the present.
