Behavior is in many ways our habits, ingrained over time in a lifestyle or style of action. It would seem that it is impossible to change what has been formed over the years. However, once you start working on yourself, you will realize that changing your behavior is real.
Instructions
Step 1
Observe yourself and understand what exactly you would like to change in behavior: habit (quit smoking), reaction (get annoyed a lot), physical reaction (get stained with communication). Think about what the ideal situation you are aiming for would look like.
Step 2
Describe the behavior you want to achieve. Try not to use the "not" particle. Instead of "I will not be annoyed" write "I will better understand my interlocutor" or "I develop patience."
Step 3
You cannot change behavior against your will. Realize why you need to do this. Find as many benefits as possible in the new behavior. Seek benefit from the fact that you change.
Step 4
If you want to change a lot of things in yourself at once, stop. Chase two hares, you won't catch anyone. Change behavior gradually: work on one habit first. When you see progress, reinforce the new behavior, and only then proceed to the next habit. For the changes to become firmly established in life, it takes at least three weeks for the body to get used to the unusual behavior for it.
Step 5
Many people, changing something in themselves, seek to remove or eradicate a certain type of behavior (for example, never to be annoyed). Instead, try adding a new action or reaction to your arsenal (react with humor). It is much easier and more useful to acquire something than to get rid of something that may be useful to you someday. Do not forbid yourself to behave in the old way. Let this method be with you, but try to develop a new one that will lead to the cherished goal.
Step 6
Introduce a new mechanism that brings bonuses. Take action. Appreciate the results. Emphasize the benefits of this type of behavior. Celebrate changes. Reward yourself for taking steps towards your goal. Be positive. If the new method for life is more effective, then the old one will go out of daily use by itself. In the event that this does not happen, rethink the bonuses you will receive from the emerging behavior.
Step 7
Look for help in the outside world and the environment: from friends, in books, in films, you can get valuable information and information. Seek support from a psychologist if you find it difficult to cope with the situation.
Step 8
Declare publicly that from day "H", you are changing. When you have already promised a large number of people to do something, it will be hard to refuse and not keep your word.
Step 9
Get ready to sabotage. There will be times when the body wants to return to its previous state. Monitor this process. Realize again the benefits of the behavior you are striving for. Friends who are used to your old habits can provoke you. Track yourself. Tell your friends gently that you have changed and are now acting differently.
