Lying almost always complicates relationships between people. However, lying to yourself makes life difficult. To engage in self-deception, pretending to be someone else or convincing yourself of something, means to escape from reality. To be honest with yourself and stop lying to yourself, you need to study yourself and your behavior.
Learn to say no
One of the main signs that a person is lying to himself is the habit of agreeing with people in everything. Such people feel obligated to say "yes" to any requests and suggestions from others. However, this behavior is self-deception. Agreeing on everything with others, a person sometimes takes on responsibilities that he can never fulfill. In addition, the habit of agreeing to everything leads to the fact that a person begins to be used, others see his inability to refuse anything. Learn to say no when necessary. This will help others understand what you are really thinking and stop deceiving yourself.
Keep track of your thoughts about yourself
Stop trying to meet other people's expectations. Monitor yourself throughout the day. Pay attention to whether you are trying to fit in with someone, whether you are not afraid to disappoint others. Such actions undermine your personality. Try not to say or do things that are contrary to your beliefs and interests. Do not act only because others expect them from you. Don't try to be someone else or imitate anyone else. Remain yourself.
Defense mechanisms
Another sign of self-deception is the categorical defense of one's point of view, which does not allow other opinions. If you always think that you are right, you are deceiving yourself, you are deeply defensive and do not listen to others. Such behavior turns one's own beliefs and value system into a tool for achieving personal goals, which does not contribute to honesty in front of oneself and others.
Don't exaggerate your abilities
The habit of overestimating oneself and one's capabilities is also one of the types of lying to oneself. It leads to the fact that a person loads himself with duties that he cannot fulfill, but at the same time continues to assert that he is capable of anything. As a result, he cannot confirm his words with deeds and loses his reputation among others. Learn to acknowledge your vulnerability and not being perfect. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Recognize your limitations.
Stop living your dreams
Quite common is the behavior of a person when he is dissatisfied with his personal life, work, financial situation, etc., dreams of how he could change everything, but at the same time does nothing for this. If you think you need to change something in your life, pay attention to whether you are relying on chance, whether you are trying to push the solution of problems into the future in the hope of better times. This behavior is self-deception and must be dealt with. Stop dreaming about the things you need, do to get them.
