Anyone should pay enough attention to their appearance - this is more than normal. But sometimes this attention develops into pathological narcissism, accompanied by unhealthy narcissism, which eventually leads to complete discord in relations with society.
The formation of character begins in early childhood, when children's narcissism is only an excuse for affection, and does not cause any fear among parents. However, over time, this develops into a character trait and becomes a problem with which a person is simply doomed to loneliness and misunderstanding on the part of other people.
Narcissism is primarily a personality transformation. This is one of the psychological types of personality, which, on the basis of excessive attention to oneself, is characterized by problems in personal life and in communication with people around. It's hard to find a common language with narcissists, to start a family and just communicate normally on an equal footing.
Causes of narcissism
- Parents inspire the child that he is the best, in every possible way encouraging his small achievements and turning a blind eye to small (and not so) pranks. Children in such families grow up extremely spoiled, completely confident in their own permissiveness and impunity.
- Narcissism may arise as a way to compensate for childhood lack of parental love and normal childhood. Through constant self-hypnosis in their irresistibility, daffodils form in themselves an image of their own perfection. Moreover, all the attempts of others to convince him otherwise will only aggravate the problem - the narcissist will move away from society, delving deeper into the world of his own illusions.
Signs of narcissism
Narcissism in men manifests itself 2 times more often than in women. Narcissism in psychology has the following definition - narcissistic character accentuation. Narcissists tend to be selfish, vain, and narcissistic. As bosses, they are either overly indifferent or overly exacting. Previously, such people stood out from the crowd with their behavior and mannerisms, which caused ridicule or disgust. Nowadays there are more and more educated people among them, holding high positions and having prosperous families. However, behind the screen of prosperity and self-sufficiency, the selfishness of the typical narcissist is clearly manifested.
For normal and easy communication, people with this type of accentuation are not suitable. After talking with them, there is a bitter aftertaste of wasted time and depression. People prefer to bypass them. Narcissists do not know how to empathize, show care and tenderness. All their strength and attention are directed only to themselves.
True narcissists have a negative attitude towards children, animals and the elderly - towards anyone who needs care and love. However, they themselves are not averse to having people in their environment who will pity them, please and support them.
Types of daffodils
Psychologists have identified 2 types of narcissistic character accentuation.
- Classic daffodils. Such people believe that the sun shines only for them. More beautiful and intelligent people than they are in the whole world. They allow themselves to be loved and admired. With all their existence, they do this imperfect world a huge favor.
- "Insecure" daffodils. They differ from the former only in that they feel constant lack of confidence in themselves and their strengths. In everything, they must see confirmation of their own significance. A striking example of this phenomenon is some modern stars: the more fans and admirers they have, the tighter their "crown" holds.
Narcissism treatment
Treatment of narcissism is not required, as it is not a pathology, but a character trait. But if the scale of the "star fever" of the narcissistic person is already beyond all sorts of boundaries, then behavioral therapy is recommended.
It is very important for narcissists to confirm their own perfection. If they do not receive enough admiration from the outside for their person, this can lead to a very severe form of depression.
In adolescence, the beginnings of narcissism can lead to abnormal sexual behavior, often manifested in the form of adolescent masturbation. In the case of narcissists, masturbation is a manifestation of sexual attraction to oneself. Even with full-fledged families and a regular sex life, such people can no longer completely abandon self-gratification.
