There is no more mysterious, mysterious and attractive word than this - "love". We all want to meet our soul mate and find out what true love is. And very often we make mistakes, because no one really can explain how to understand this feeling.
Every person dreams of love. He thinks: "Here, I will meet my soul mate, we will love each other, and everything with us will be just wonderful, beautiful and rosy. And we will always be in happiness." Why do people think so? They believe that meeting a loved one is already an event that will lead them to an ideal life.
And then the sad statistics come to mind: there are 600 divorces per 1000 marriages in Russia per year. What's the matter? After all, people married for love. No one forcibly wooed anyone, according to the calculation only a few are getting married now. Why is this happening?
Sadly, it’s a matter of the selfishness of the lovers. Each of them has one big "I" in the first place. They think something like this: "It will be good for me with you, I will receive attention from you, you should give me gifts, compliments and surprises, you will take care of me."
Imagine two lambs meeting on a narrow bridge - this is what today's lovers look like, as soon as the period of euphoria from meeting with a soul mate ends. Look closely at yourself and admit that you, too, have such thoughts.
How to preserve a wonderful feeling if it has come? It's very simple - stop being selfish and learn to give. Learn to understand the needs and demands of another person and often think: "What can I do today for her (for him) to make her happy?" In the meantime, it turns out that we simply cannot listen to each other, everyone tries to talk about his painful and is not interested in the life of the other. Is this love?
In the book of the famous psychologist Svetlana Peunova "About love" there are the following words: "Love is a feeling of bestowal, breadth of soul, but not euphoria. It is a feeling of two, cooperation and creation. Falling in love is a feeling of one." And further: "Love is a calm feeling." That is, the feeling of a confident, generous soul and self-sufficient person who will not worry, no matter how he is abandoned, will not be jealous and worried. He will simply be glad that there is a half and that she is nearby.
And he will learn to give, and not demand more and more for himself, will not set conditions and arrange scenes. He will try to deeply understand a loved one, and not put on him self-made masks. According to psychologists, most relatives do not really know each other, what can we say about people who have just met. And when you know better (eat a pood of salt), you will understand whether this is love or just a hobby.
