Disappointments, losses, resentments, the inability to fulfill their dreams, the collapse of hopes - all this can lead to the loss of the meaning of life. The main thing at such moments is to remember that the meaning of life is in life itself. To start managing your life again, and not go with the flow and constantly live your own "Groundhog Day", you need to act!
Instructions
Step 1
To start a life that is meaningful and filled with new colors again, you need to leave the past in the past. The meaning must be sought in the present and the future, and the events of the past are just a storehouse of experience. We must forgive the insults, stop blaming ourselves for the mistakes of our youth and think "but it could have been …". Remember, it couldn't be otherwise. Smart people still did not invent a time machine and are unlikely to come up with it in the current era, which means that nothing can be fixed. Everything happened the way it happened. And is it worth re-experiencing the same negative thoughts day after day? To forget the past, of course, is impossible, and it is not necessary. Let it teach you not to repeat old mistakes, be wise and judicious, set new goals, but let it be the past.
Step 2
Next, you should objectively assess your present. You need to evaluate every area: work, family, relationships with friends, material wealth, the possibility of entertainment, etc. If something does not suit you, you need to either change this aspect of life, or change your attitude towards it. Friends ignore or betray - cut off contacts, people still don't change! The husband does not understand and does not support you - discuss problems with him and do not forget to support him. Work does not bring satisfaction - get another specialty. Not enough money - think if you are spending it wisely, or strive to earn more. When you realize that everything in your life depends only on you, it will be easier to find new meaning.
Step 3
One of the first ways to find a new meaning in life is to look for an object of care. If you are ready to become parents, it's time to think about children - for most people, children are the most important meaning in life. Some volunteer to help the sick, the elderly, or the homeless. Someone gets a kitten or a puppy, and in order to return meaning, it is better to pick up a homeless animal and give him care, warmth, a real home. The pet's reciprocal feelings will not be long in coming, and there the warming warmth in the soul will return its former positive attitude to life.
Step 4
Another way to make your life meaningful is to be grateful. Thank life, the Universe, God, parents, people around, nature - everything that gives rise to warm feelings in your heart. Thank you for everything, for global things and minor trifles: for the present moment, for a bright future, for pleasant people around, for a lucky ticket on the bus, for a timely call from a partner, for a beautiful sunset. Moreover, express this gratitude openly, especially to close people. At the same time, one must not forget about the causes of negative emotions. If they are easy to fix, do it without thinking. Does the vase remind you of an unpleasant time with someone? So break it down! This will help release the anger and prevent self-destruction.
Step 5
The technique of "living your last day" is considered a very effective technique that helps to realize your life and its purpose. It can be done orally, but it is better to write down the answers. All you need is to answer the question: "What would I do if I found out that this day of my life is the last?" Describe this day in great detail. Whatever arises in your thoughts, these are your true desires. It is also useful to think about the questions: “What will I regret the most on the last day of my life?”, “What will I be proud of?”, “What can I leave behind?”. This will be of great help in understanding your true goals and values.
Step 6
The main thing that should not be deprived under any circumstances is self-love. Accept yourself for who you are, love not only your advantages, but also your shortcomings, perceive yourself as a whole - this is self-love. If suddenly the love for this main person in your life has passed, immediately return it. Self-training, positive affirmations, lifestyle changes - whatever you want, but love yourself again! Having learned and understood yourself, the realization of the main values in life will not keep you waiting. When you love yourself, you will not let your desire to be yourself die out. Show your creativity, change what does not suit you, take risks and travel for the sake of getting new sensations, because you deserve the brightest and, what is important, life that goes according to your scenario.
