Sometimes it happens that time does not heal, and a mistake once made for many months, or even years, poisons your life. Instead of enjoying a fine day, success at work and new relationships, you replay the painful situation in your head over and over again, coming up with alternative exits. Be that as it may, if you want your life to sparkle again, you have to do it - forgive yourself for the mistake you made.
Necessary
A piece of paper, a pen, a telephone
Instructions
Step 1
Try to remember in detail the situation when you made the mistake. Do not throw a tantrum, but calmly reproduce the reasons that prompted you to go for it, some minor details. Abstract, take a piece of paper and write it all down. Imagine someone else telling you about their mistake.
Step 2
Now remember and write down your actions that led to disastrous consequences, that is, the actions that make up your mistake.
Step 3
But now, if you wish, cry. Throw a tantrum, break a couple of plates, throw a pillow at the cat, bang your forehead against the wall. After you have cried, and you feel better, re-read your notes, while pretending that they were not written by you, but by someone else. Consider whether this “someone else” is doing the right thing to suffer so much because of a mistake he once made.
Step 4
Think about how you could act differently in a situation where a mistake was made. What would be the consequences of such an act? What prevented you from doing this?
Step 5
Find the phone numbers of the people affected by your mistake, call them and apologize. It doesn't matter if you are worried about an event that happened ten years ago. Even if your interlocutor has difficulty remembering when you offended him, you will still feel better after spoken words of remorse.
Step 6
Make the necessary conclusions for yourself and try to do as many good deeds as possible. To be on good terms with yourself and others, to enjoy every day is the guarantee of happiness.
