Most children, entering adolescence, write down their desires and experiences in a diary. Most often, girls feel the need for this, boys are more restrained in expressing their emotions. The diary is trusted with the most intimate, something that even the closest people should not know about.
Instructions
Step 1
Is it possible to read a child's diary - the opinions of both parents and psychologists are divided. Some people think that it is possible to look into the diary to keep abreast of childhood experiences and to help the child cope with his problems. But in this case, parents should be sure that they will not give out a secret read secret with a single word. A diary accidentally found by parents can become a real tragedy for a child. Teenagers react painfully if their secret tapes fall into the wrong hands.
Step 2
If you couldn't help reading the diary, try to talk tactfully with your child, controlling your emotions. Even if you learned something that makes you scared, painful, offensive. Indeed, children often write in the diary not only their first experiences, but also not entirely correct actions or, after conflicts with their parents, hard-hitting reviews about them. If you cannot find the right words, try to recommend the right book or movie in time, where the teenager himself can find answers to his questions.
Step 3
Parents who have developed a relationship of trust with the child believe that the diary should not be read. If mutual understanding reigns in the family, there is no need to secretly read the child's personal notes. He will share his feelings anyway if he considers dad and mom to be his closest friends. The child should know that he will always be listened to and understood, help with advice. He must understand that parents want to be aware of his problems not in order to scold and punish, but to help make the right decision.
Step 4
Teenagers get very annoyed when their parents treat them like little ones. Tight control will not lead to frank family relationships. Don't be afraid to give your child more freedom. He should have his own time to read fashion magazines, watch films, chat with friends.
Step 5
Children are very sensitive to insincerity and lies. They understand everything and sometimes perceive better than adults. In order for the child to find understanding in the family, talk to him like an adult. Then you will no longer need to read his secret notes. Let the diary be his little secret.
