Doubts very often prevent a person from making the right choice. Disbelief in oneself, one's skills and abilities, worries about how everything will turn out and fear of failure do not allow to look forward joyfully, deprive of opportunities. But you can cope with all this, you just need to learn to look at the situation from different angles.
Instructions
Step 1
Doubts appear at the moments when you need to make a choice, make decisions. And if the prospects are not clear or there is no clear goal, many negative feelings can arise. Usually at this moment you want to ask the advice of another person, to know the opinion of others, but do they know better? It is important to learn how to cope with this condition on your own.
Step 2
Start by asking yourself: why do I need this? For example, you are offered to move to a new position, but you doubt that you will cope with the duties, that you will meet the expectations of management. Don't worry, but ask yourself why you need this new job. If this is the place that really makes your life better, then you can do it. You will be able to learn, improve your qualifications, find a common language with the team. When there is motivation, everything else fades into the background. And if your answer is difficult, if you do not need it, then you should immediately refuse.
Step 3
You can remove worries and doubts with the help of the awareness of failure. Think, what happens if you fail? It is better to write your answers on a piece of paper. Fear arises in the face of the unknown, but if you understand what can happen, everything will be easier. Write down all the negative points that are possible, pay attention to even the smallest things. And then take a close look at them. Are they really that scary? Before public speaking, people often have doubts about their abilities, but if they write what can happen, they understand that this is stupidity. Failure can only cause grins in the audience or falling asleep of several people, but is that scary?
Step 4
In order not to doubt, you need to have the necessary knowledge. Start learning, read books, listen to or watch seminars, improve yourself in any way. Doing any thing, making a decision will be much easier if you have the knowledge and skills. You can prepare for a speech, for a new job, for a presentation or defending a diploma. And the more you gather knowledge and practice, the better you will be at it.
Step 5
Refuse to communicate with those who do not believe in your strength. Don't discuss your plans with them, don't talk about work. Do not let anyone raise doubts in you, rely only on your knowledge. People are not inclined to believe in the success of others, and some even specifically talk about negative consequences, because they themselves have not achieved anything and do not want others to be effective. Choose a circle of acquaintances, be guided only by the words of those who give you hope.
