Anyone, even without realizing it, uses various behavioral patterns. Training and education is impossible without templates. However, a person who lives exclusively “as it should” or “as it should be” often loses its plasticity and cannot adapt to the changed situation. You need to be able to use templates.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about which templates are good for you and which ones you might want to avoid. You can walk, sit, read, write, and more. All this you do according to the template, once and for all, having mastered the sequence of actions. If something happens to a person and he forgets the algorithm (for example, with some brain diseases or injuries), he has to learn everything again. Therefore, such patterns must be treated with care.
Step 2
Pay attention to how you react to certain external stimuli. A person, without noticing it, responds to any situation in a certain way, the way he is used to doing it. And people around very often manipulate this. Such stereotypes must be broken. There are two words for this - "why" and "why". Did something upset or annoy you? Why is it annoying? And why do you react to this with screams or tears?
Step 3
Ask yourself a question - are the actions of the person who annoys or upsets you caused by his desire to cause just such a reaction?
Step 4
Try to respond to an external stimulus differently from what is expected of you. If something upsets you, try not to cry. You can even try to laugh. This, of course, will cause surprise, but one or two non-standard reactions - and those around you will lose the desire to manipulate you. Those who are accustomed to the fact that you react calmly to everything can be stopped by a slipper thrown by you or even a broken plate. But don't use the same technique twice. Change the types of reactions.
Step 5
Study the reactions of others. You can achieve what you want more quickly if you know exactly how a person is used to reacting to certain words or actions. At home, try not to use such methods too often, since you do not need biorobots that blindly fulfill all your desires.
