How often do you ask yourself: Why do I - smart, beautiful, cheerful - feel like a failure? You know the answer yourself: you are not sure of yourself. A confident person knows how to argue and defend their interests, and an insecure person blames himself for any reason. The personal life and career of the former is much more successful than that of the latter. The list is endless. So what prevents many of us from believing in our strength?
Instructions
Step 1
Look into the past
Typically, there are two main reasons for self-doubt. The first - in childhood, when you were formed as a person, parents, friends or teachers put pressure on you with their authority, often made comments to you, reproached you for something, did not listen to your opinion. The second - for a long time there was (and maybe there is) a person next to you who constantly doubted everything. It is clear that you could have been "infected" by this too.
Step 2
To get rid of insecurity, psychologists advise to realize your most vivid grievances and try to relive them with maximum emotional strength. It's never too late to mentally change your past. Your goal is to turn the burden of the past into a valuable legacy, experience, life potential. And remember, you shouldn't be ashamed of difficult moments in your life (divorce, bad interview, loss of money). If you have overcome this, then you have become stronger. This is something to be proud of.
Step 3
Make friends with yourself
There are wonderful words in the Bible: "Love your neighbor as yourself." Everyone has heard this phrase, but not everyone knows that in order to love someone, you first need to learn to love yourself. This love is not selfishness, not deception, not arrogance. This is the foundation of man.
Step 4
Do you want to do good deeds, but at the same time consider yourself bad? But can someone bad do something good?.. You can break out of the vicious circle only by changing your attitude towards yourself. Not from Monday, not from tomorrow, but from this second. Take action!
