Jealousy to one degree or another is inherent in any normal person. Anyone who claims that he has never been jealous in his entire life is most likely cunning or sincerely mistaken. Another thing is that it can take relatively soft, civilized forms, and can turn into living hell both the life of the jealous person himself, and the life of the one who is dear to him! She sometimes pushes on the most unsightly actions. Sometimes it happens like this: a jealous person realizes that he is behaving stupidly, unworthy, but he cannot help himself. How to get rid of jealousy?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to boost your self-esteem. Because jealousy in its extreme, unsightly forms, as a rule, is characteristic of people with low self-esteem, obsessed with complexes. First of all, an inferiority complex. Because they are overwhelmed with jealousy, they are not sure of their own attractiveness, dignity. It seems to them that if a loved one is taken away from them, they will no longer be able to find their happiness with anyone and will be doomed to loneliness.
Step 2
Take a look at yourself "from the outside" and understand that sooner or later your behavior will alienate from you the very person you are trying so desperately to keep!
Step 3
In no case do not let your relatives, friends, girlfriends into your problems. Especially girlfriends, even the closest ones! You don't want a lot of people to soon begin to discuss with interest: do you have a serious reason for jealousy, or is it just the fruit of your unhealthy imagination?
Step 4
Try to control yourself in every possible way, first of all, without arranging showdown scenes in front of strangers. If necessary, take sedatives, preferably herbal medicines (valerian drops, etc.).
Step 5
Instead of such scenes, it is better to calmly talk with your loved one. Of course, face to face! Say that you love him, that he is dear to you, and therefore you want your love not to be overshadowed by anything. And then explain what exactly you dislike, embarrass, and arouse your suspicions. Speak only to the point, without getting lost in minor details, without emotions, reproaches, especially scandals!
Step 6
If your loved one answers calmly, logically (albeit with annoyance or even resentment), trying to explain that your suspicions were unfounded, consider yourself lucky and no longer tempt fate. If he bursts out with reproaches and accusations, your relationship hangs in the balance. Think seriously about how to preserve them, and whether or not they are worth preserving.
Step 7
And in general, remember that strong jealousy is the lot of weak, notorious, insecure people! Do you really want to be thought of like that?
