It happens that out of stupidity or because of strong emotions, a person acts to the detriment of himself. You can learn to master the situation and see your own benefit in any situation if you work on yourself.
Think about yourself
To learn how to see your benefits in everything, you need to understand what you want, what you need. Otherwise, it will be difficult for you to define your goals and act in accordance with them. Listen to yourself, imagine your ideal future, or remember what you loved as a child, when your actions were practically not influenced by public opinion.
By the way, you should think less about what others think of you. Of course, this does not mean that you can commit dishonest acts and go over your heads for your own benefit. But when you are prevented from taking a step by the thought of the possible condemnation of your actions by other members of society, you need to objectively assess the situation without looking back at those around you. If you're not doing anything wrong to anyone, why not stop being shy and do your own thing.
Learn to defend your point of view. Some people know what is best for them and would be happy to turn the situation to their advantage, but they cannot resist others. Know how to reasonably lead a dispute, respond to the objections of the interlocutor. Develop a strategy ahead of time to help you win the discussion. Learn to give facts that will convince other people that you are right.
Control your emotions
Emotions sometimes get in the way of acting in accordance with your interests. Some people do something to their detriment, just to annoy someone or let off steam, and then regret their own actions. If you do not want to repeat these mistakes, learn to control your emotions and calculate future moves in advance.
Remember that revenge is a completely non-constructive feeling. Trying to do bad to a person, you forget about your real interests and miss the opportunity to derive true benefit from the situation. The satisfaction that your enemy is in trouble thanks to you is rather illusory. You will not get real pleasure from revenge, believe me. Therefore, you should not waste your time and energy on it.
Calm down, do not make any decisions in the heat of passion. Assess the situation soberly and think over several options for the development of events. If your goal is to gain benefits for yourself, focus on that, leaving all other thoughts aside for now. Sometimes a person cannot do what he needs because of unnecessary pride. Of course, you don't need to humiliate yourself. But sometimes you have to bend under the situation in order to improve your position. In such cases, you need to compare what you are losing and what you are gaining, and based on this make a decision.
