In life, there are always such moments when you have to choose: continue the battle or surrender. Making a decision in such a situation is extremely difficult. It is very difficult to continue the battle. Especially when there is no strength. In addition, there is not always confidence that the result will please. And giving up is always easy. It is in this that the psychology of the winner and the victim is expressed.
The winner sets himself the goal of winning. The victim tries to avoid defeat. These are two different goals. In the first case, a person fights for his success despite setbacks and falls. The second goal involves avoiding any action out of fear of failure.
Differences between a winner and a loser
The victim is not determined to win. Such a person blames the environment, politicians, bosses, and place of residence for his own failures and mistakes. But not yourself. He is irritable, anxious. He often shows aggression. He doesn't have enough tolerance for people. He has no self-confidence. And as soon as the first obstacles arise, he immediately gives up. This, in turn, causes a feeling of frustration.
The winner understands that on the way to success, you can face a series of failures. He is ready for this. Such a person always understands how to act in the event of an undesirable development of events. He always has a clear plan according to which he acts. The winner is calm and benevolent. He appreciates his time and will not waste it on unnecessary trifles. Laconic in difficult situations.
Winner benefits
- He does not need external motivation. The winner always has a desire to set goals and achieve them.
- He is always determined to win in any competition and life situation.
- He is able to learn from mistakes and is easy to criticize him.
- He has a positive mindset, thanks to which he retains hope of success even in an extreme situation.
- He is able to control his feelings, emotions, mind.
- He remains calm even in the most stressful moments.
- He knows how to maintain concentration, confidence and composure.
- He knows the limits of his capabilities.
- He lives in complete harmony not only with the people around him, but also with himself.
- The winner is sincere in words and thoughts. He is not afraid to communicate and express emotions and feelings.
- He is not afraid of defeat, because I understand that they are capable of becoming a springboard for future victories.
- He takes responsibility for his own life.
- He is willing to take risks. The winner has everything calculated in advance.
- He is not afraid of public opinion. Acts according to his own principles and outlook on life. He is not shy about his appearance, actions and words.
- He does not forbid anything to anyone. Completely absorbed in only his own life.
- He is a realist. The winner assesses the situation soberly and understands what can and cannot be influenced.
- Everything is simple with him. He lives without tears, suffering and self-pity. The winner just makes decisions, just acts, just succeeds.
Become a winner
Naturally, pure winners are extremely rare. As, in principle, and losers. Most people have traits of both. Success in life depends on who is more in us: the winner or the victim.
To develop the psychology of a winner, you need to heed the following guidelines.
- Don't get hung up on failure. It is recommended to focus attention on successes, achievements. Write out your victories, be proud of them. Learn to take success for granted. Make it a habit.
- There is no need to make diagnoses to yourself (example: "I never succeed!"). Such statements, repeated regularly, can significantly ruin the life of any person. It is better to refuse such installations.
- Give up the word "try". It programs for failure.
- Don't give up. Did you fail to achieve your goal? Analyze your mistakes and find another way to realize your desires.
- Learn to take responsibility for your own life. Do not blame strangers and close people for your mistakes.
