There are no ideal people in the world. Any person is bound to have shortcomings - minor or serious. In the first case, it is quite possible to put up with the shortcomings. In the second case, they can greatly complicate the life of the person himself and those people who communicate with him, first of all, his relatives. The problem is that the overwhelming majority of people don't look at themselves from the outside and just don't see the downsides! Their own behavior, habits, manners seem correct and natural to them.
Instructions
Step 1
Above all, remember that no one gets excited about criticism. Hearing reproaches for bad manners, habits, inappropriate behavior, etc., a person instinctively begins to defend himself, making excuses and putting forward counter-accusations. Therefore, it is better to act not directly, but in roundabout ways.
Step 2
Keep in mind that the fairest criticism, if it is expressed in a harsh, tactless form on the verge of rudeness, will not only fail to achieve the goal, but can also lead to the exact opposite result. Therefore, even if you have every reason to be dissatisfied, try to control yourself. Speak in a calm, polite voice, refrain from accusations and personalities.
Step 3
Start by listing the strengths and accomplishments of the person whose behavior you want to change. Praise him - surely there is something for that! Then get the conversation back on track. And try to lead him in this spirit: "All this is very good, but if you did this and that, or would answer this and that, it would be even better!" In this case, a person will see in you not a critic, not an enemy, but a well-wisher who sincerely cares about him, about his interests. And, accordingly, he will treat your words with attention, and will not ignore them.
Step 4
During a conversation, in every possible way, avoid categorical statements such as: "You must", "I'm sure", "Believe me, I know better!" etc. Instead, say: "It seems to me", "If I'm not mistaken", "What do you think?"
Step 5
If you are talking with a person who is much older than you, try to behave especially respectfully, emphasize in every possible way that you highly value his merits, life experience. If the conversation is with a teenager, in no case show neglect, condescension: they say, it is still small, the milk on your lips has not dried up. Do not forget that in adolescence, due to a sharp change in hormonal levels, many young men and women become painfully proud and touchy.
Step 6
Try to make the person think that he needs to change. How this is achieved depends on many factors. In any case, remember the words of D. Carnegie: "The best way to make a person do something is to make him want to do it!"
