The word "antipathy" has ancient Greek roots and means negative feelings, disapproval, dislike. Surely people have heard the words: "I feel such antipathy towards him that I just cannot communicate!" Everything is clear here without further explanation. But how does antipathy arise in general, what is it based on?
For what reason can there be antipathy towards a person
As mentioned above, the basis of antipathy is hostility and aversion to another person. And these emotions arise for a number of reasons, starting with a banal explanation that they did not agree with the characters, and ending with such serious ones as insult, betrayal. Disagreement can also be a reason for antipathy; tastes; habits; a dispute that went beyond the generally accepted rules of decency; defiant behavior (and, often it only seems so) and much more.
The human psyche is so arranged that for most people their own tastes, habits, views seem to be the most correct and natural. Therefore, when faced with other habits, attitudes and tastes, they often experience some kind of psychological discomfort. For example, a person accustomed to neatness, accuracy, disapproves of someone else's non-obligation, slovenliness. And if, by the will of fate, he is forced to closely communicate with such people - for example, living under the same roof or working in the same institution, such psychological discomfort will almost certainly develop into antipathy. Likewise, a delicate, shy person who appreciates peace and quiet may dislike overly energetic, noisy, unceremonious (from his point of view) people. Although their behavior is caused only by a sanguine or, even more so, choleric temperament, and does not go beyond the norm.
What can we say about eternal problems like "mother-in-law-daughter-in-law" or "son-in-law-mother-in-law." There is simply limitless scope for the emergence of persistent mutual antipathy. In addition, the object of antipathy may not be a specific person, but a large group of people, for example, fans of another sports team or even the population of an entire state during a political crisis.
Is antipathy always explicable
There are times when there is no compelling reason for antipathy. Nevertheless, a person can instinctively feel distrust, dislike for someone, and these feelings develop into persistent antipathy. Moreover, he himself does not understand what caused this, he realizes that the object of antipathy did not give the slightest reason for this, but he cannot do anything with himself. The mechanism of this phenomenon has not yet been sufficiently studied. It is akin to the mysterious "sixth sense" that cannot be resisted.
