How to neutralize criticism and not get involved in a quarrel, not make excuses and not offend your interlocutor? It's actually quite simple, but it takes some practice.
How to learn to neutralize criticism
The first advice from psychologists is to ignore it. This can be very difficult, but try to teach yourself not to react to sharp remarks. You can continue the dialogue in your head, but do not outwardly show that you are offended. If you are criticized, learn to pay attention to your positive sides as well - you are slowly getting ready, but you do not forget anything.
In order to neutralize criticism, always go from general to specific. Very often the words "always" and "never" are used. If you are responding to criticism of this kind, try to emphasize words like “today,” “now,” and so on. Pay attention to the details.
In response to criticism, ask for clarification of subtext. Very often people say hurtful words under the influence of emotions. You can confuse a person with a simple phrase "what exactly do you mean?" If you are criticized by a loved one, then in no case should you respond to the criticism negatively. Instead, focus on how you are feeling.
A very good way to neutralize criticism is humor. You can joke about the situation or yourself, but in no case over the interlocutor - this can only escalate the situation.
As regrettable as it may sound, criticism can sometimes be constructive. And if you know your weaknesses, then exactly at the moment when you are criticized, you can ask for help or advice. Most people love to help other people. In addition, if you know your weaknesses, then you can prepare in advance for attacks and skillfully parry them, and not frantically look for excuses.
