Life is so arranged that people, even calm, non-conflict, educated people, can have enemies. The most natural reaction is to respond to your ardent ill-wisher with counter-hostility. Mutual hatred can last for years. Humanly, this is understandable. But it is better to overpower yourself, change your attitude towards the enemy and try to reconcile.
Instructions
Step 1
If you are a believer, remember that all major world religions urge you to be condescending to the mistakes, shortcomings and even vices of other people, to forgive your enemies. "Do not judge, lest you be judged yourself!" - this is one of the commandments of Christianity. Feelings such as anger, hatred are considered grave sins. In the event that you cannot soften in any way, forgive your enemy, talk to the clergyman, tell him frankly about this problem.
Step 2
Think about this as well. It is extremely rare that in a conflict that led to a strong quarrel, and as a result - to enmity, only one side is guilty. Most people tend to justify themselves and judge others. Nevertheless, try to remember where the enmity began in general, objectively and impartially analyze your behavior and find the answer to the question: was it your fault in what happened? Maybe you behaved tactlessly, offended this person, or someone from his family, friends (even if unintentionally)? In the event that you self-critically admit that you also bear your share of responsibility for the enmity that happened, it will be much easier for you to change your attitude towards your ill-wisher, and also try to reconcile.
Step 3
It often happens that the basis of hostility is elementary envy. Suppose you are smarter, more talented, more successful than your ill-wisher, and for him it is like a "sharp knife." He literally loses his peace, begins to blame you for his failures, mediocrity. Such a person may be your colleague, neighbor, former classmate, or just an acquaintance. What can I say here? Such flawed people are not worth your attention. They should not be treated with hostility. After all, the only feeling that they cause in normal people is disgusting pity. Do not pay attention to such people.
Step 4
Finally, if you yourself cannot understand why your enemy disliked you, try to frankly explain to him. Do not use accusatory "prosecutorial" tone or threats. Just calmly ask him to answer: what did you do to him, what offended him. Perhaps during the conversation it will become clear that everything happened because of an annoying misunderstanding, mutual misunderstanding. Then it will be very easy for you to change your attitude towards each other. If you see that the other person is not in the mood for a conversation, do not insist. For a conversation, it is better to choose a time when the person is open to communication.
