Conflicts can happen even in the strongest and most loving family. Probably, with all the desire, it is impossible to find such a married couple who would never quarrel in their life together. Therefore, in the very fact of the conflict there is nothing strange, all the more shameful. But it is very important to be able to stop in time, to extinguish the conflict at the very beginning, and if it came out "full-scale", then get rid of its negative consequences as soon as possible.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, one must resist the temptation to blame the opposite side for everything, because in the overwhelming majority of cases, both husband and wife are to blame for the conflict, albeit to varying degrees. Admitting that at least some of the blame lies with you will help you find the right way out of the situation.
Step 2
Remember the old truth: "The first step to reconciliation is made by the one who is smarter." Alas, wounded pride, pride, and resentment often outweigh this truth. You can start with some neutral phrase, for example, "I'm really sorry that everything turned out this way" or "let's try to figure out how to avoid quarrels and reproaches in the future."
Step 3
Try to conduct the conversation in the most correct tone, in every possible way refraining from reproaches, accusations, personal transitions, mentions of the mother-in-law, mother-in-law and other relatives on both sides. Speak only to the point. Calmly, frankly, without reservations, explain what specifically you did not like in a given situation, what actions or words of the opposite side hurt you, offended.
Step 4
If you feel that the claims against you are fair, be honest and honest about it. Be sure to emphasize that they did not have even the slightest malicious intent, did not want to offend. Promise that you will draw conclusions and refrain from such words and actions in the future. And try to keep your promise.
Step 5
To "consolidate" reconciliation, give each other a gift you have long dreamed of. Take a trip, for example. And if there is no time or finances do not allow, then at least go to a theater or an exhibition. The main thing is to get positive emotions from the time spent together.
Step 6
Do not remember the conflict that happened at every opportunity, and even more so, do not constantly poke your loved one into a previously committed mistake.
