Friendship is constantly tested. This is a natural process that indicates the development of a person and the formation of his value system. Improving self-esteem is essential to strengthening friendships.
Necessary
- - pen;
- - paper.
Instructions
Step 1
If you want to strengthen friendships, build on the fact that the values of friendship change over the course of life. This is a natural and ongoing process. By entering into relationships with different people, you gain some communication experience. At the same time, the main values are systematized and specified. For example, when you go to university, you make new friends. You are connected by many things, your friendship becomes interesting and exciting. But the years pass, and after a while you find that your attitude towards friendship has changed, you are making completely different demands on it.
Step 2
In order to further understand whether you are satisfied with certain friendly relations, clearly understand for yourself what you call friendship and what exactly do you value in it? Highlight the qualities of your boyfriend or girlfriend, evaluate the manifestations of this person in relation to you and be aware of your feelings and well-being that you experience when you are with him. Try to understand what exactly you would like to change in this sense. Formulate the answer to the question: "What do you want to get from friendships?"
Step 3
Match your wants and needs with those of your boyfriend or girlfriend. Each person has their own individual characteristics. Therefore, it is important to understand that friendship at its core also has a compromise. As you ponder what exactly you could forgive your friend and which of the requirements you could relax, you will inevitably come to a completely natural conclusion. In friendships, there are things in which you are ready to make some concessions, but there are also those that completely exclude this.
Step 4
Highlight your own desires and needs that support your self-worth and cannot be revised. They are individual for each person. Someone can forgive a friend for deception, betrayal, insult, and someone will not be able to endure frequent ridicule or stupid jokes, which will inevitably lead to a break in relations. Make and write down a list of situations in which you cannot compromise.
Step 5
Discuss your requirements with a friend or girlfriend. Considering that upbringing and communication experience for each person is purely individual, such things can be perceived in different ways. Your close friend or girlfriend should know and understand correctly what is important to you in your relationship.
Step 6
Make the right decisions. If your relationship meets the mutual requirements, then you have at your hands all the means that can significantly strengthen your friendships without causing contradictions. Otherwise, you can end or change relationships that have long been out of line with the idea of friendship.
