Even in the most loving couple, a situation can occur when one partner is cheating on the other. It can be a fleeting hobby, or something more serious. And if a spouse finds out about this, then the question arises: “Is it worth forgiving? How to survive betrayal? It is very difficult to give any specific advice in this situation, but still there are general recommendations on how to easily endure the deception and betrayal of a loved one.
Instructions
Step 1
The first thing to do after learning about the betrayal is to calm down. It is difficult, but necessary. Under the influence of emotions, you can say and do something that you will regret later. Many people immediately have a desire to take revenge on the traitor, to go cheat themselves. But such thoughts are destructive, they will not help to cope with the problem. The faster you control your emotions, the better. If you find it difficult to see your soul mate right now, then retire for the time that you need to bring your thoughts and feelings in order.
Step 2
Of course, you need to calm down, but you shouldn't keep negative emotions in yourself either. Get rid of them, but do not splash on the abuser. Go in for sports, give yourself up to creativity, cry, but only so that no one can see. You can seek help from a psychotherapist.
Step 3
After you have taken control of your feelings, you need to understand why the cheating happened. There may be many reasons for it. And you and your significant other can be guilty in this situation. If you did not pay enough attention to your spouse, stopped taking care of yourself, you had problems in an intimate sense, then you should not be surprised that your beloved began to look at other girls. The second reason may be related to the fact that your husband or wife is polygamous, but this can be understood at the beginning of the acquaintance, and you should not expect loyalty from such a person. It happens that cheating happens by accident, most often under the influence of alcohol, when a person loses control over his desires. And another reason for cheating is new love. This option is the most dramatic, since betrayal occurs not only on the physical, but also on the spiritual level.
Step 4
You found out the reason, now you need to decide what to do next. Here everyone decides for himself what to do. If you categorically do not accept betrayal, then it is better to part with the person, since such a relationship will become a torment for both you and him. Think also about how you will live without a person. Perhaps it will be much worse without him. In this case, you should try to forgive, only if you decide to take this step, you do not need to remind your husband (wife) of his mistake, you need to throw out all thoughts about this betrayal once and for all.
Step 5
Whatever decision you make, you should not shut yourself in. Chat with friends, meet new people, take care of yourself, take more time to work. An eventful life will not let you think a lot about this unpleasant situation, it will help you forget it faster.
