Cheating on a partner is a serious test that can darken the mind of even the most sane person. To respond with treason to treason means to do it in spite, but first of all it turns out to spite oneself, because the consequence of such a decision will be only one thing - it will become even more painful and unpleasant.
Instructions
Step 1
They say that the first thoughts that appear, it is worth learning about the betrayal, is “Why? What did I do wrong? How could he / she?”, But in reality in the beginning there are no thoughts at all, only shock and pain, from which everything inside turns to stone. Then comes the time of worries and sobs, and it can last for everyone in different ways. Someone makes scandals and tantrums, someone hides and experiences alone. Still others meet with their best friend or girlfriend and spread everything to a loved one.
Step 2
At first, it may be unclear whether the relationship is worth continuing after the incident. Some cannot forgive cheating. This is really difficult to do, and even if a person betrayed only once, he may not return the trust. If you understand that this is your case, then it may be worth parting, at least for a while, in order to think about what happened and calm down. Someone decides to be together, no matter what. Often the reason is that many things bind people together: living space in common property, small children who need to be raised together, something else … Situations are very different.
Step 3
The inevitable reaction to cheating is deep resentment. A person learns that he was preferred to someone else, and here it does not matter whether this someone else is better or worse, the fact itself is important: they were neglected. The offense seems so big and unfair that you want to take revenge. And how can you take revenge in such a situation? Of course, only by changing too. But take your time, even if such thoughts come to mind. To reply in kind is not an option. This behavior can drive you into even greater depression, because after the betrayal of a loved one, you also changed yourself.
Step 4
If it was decided not to break off relations, but to stay together, then both partners should try with all their might to establish something that was broken: mutual trust. But when the second rushes to change in response, then there is no longer any question of trust, people just try to offend and hurt each other as much as possible. If you feel that you are drawn into such a relationship, run away from it, save yourself. This is a very unhealthy phenomenon that can cripple both you and your partner. Accumulating pain and resentment mixed with addiction to new emotions, including negative ones, is an explosive and dangerous cocktail.
Step 5
In response, a person is prompted to change by jealousy and a sense of possessiveness. You are in pain and think that your partner should feel the same! But even if the love is still strong, it is better to just leave than to try to take revenge and behave like an "eye for an eye". Over time, any pain will go away, and the less it is, the faster it will subside. By changing in response, a person descends to the level of the one who betrayed him, and this is also very painful. After such an act, people feel as if they slipped and fell into the mud. Cheating in response becomes an additional shock, which inflicts another trauma on the person.
