Only 7% of information is received by a person with the help of words. 93% of communication takes place on a non-verbal level: through facial expressions, gestures and even silence. How do you get the basic information?
Instructions
Step 1
Observe facial expressions and gestures. Even before he has had time to answer in words, a person already expresses his attitude to what was said. He shows emotion. It can be embarrassment when talking "on a sore subject", a dismissive smile when demonstrating other people's achievements. Many people, when they lie, try to look away. Such non-verbal contact will be a more sincere and truthful response than a long speech. Give importance to the intonation with which the interlocutor speaks. A quiet and monotonous voice is used for hypnosis, and the tone is sharply changed in order to piss off oneself. By the demeanor, one can understand how open a person is to communication.
Step 2
Pay attention to appearance. Carelessness in clothes speaks of disrespect for oneself and others, and an exceptional outer gloss emphasizes the obsession with one's own interests. Someone tends to dress inappropriately, which is typical of impractical or creative individuals.
Step 3
Consider temperament. He will talk about the prospects for your communication at the stage of acquaintance. Choleric is adventurous and energetic, but you need to be prepared for mood swings and violent emotions. You will definitely not get bored with it. The phlegmatic is calm, unperturbed and a little slow. But he is a responsible executor. Sanguine is the soul of the company: cheerful and sociable, but cannot stand monotony. A melancholic is a devoted friend, he subtly feels the mood of loved ones, but is easily vulnerable and prone to depression.
Step 4
Find out the interests of a person and you can understand his inner world. Discussion of a book, movie or random news will give an idea of the views on the life of the interlocutor. Pay attention to addictions and habits, and you can avoid unwanted consequences for yourself. If your friend likes to be late, it's best not to risk it and take a taxi to the airport. When you notice how easily a friend lies to others, it means that this can happen to you.
Step 5
Actions are the main source of information. Pay attention to contradictions. You may be persuaded of a loyal friendship, but occasionally let you down. In such a situation, actions are "louder than words." Be wary if you hear a compliment that is not very true. Perhaps this is a sign of manipulation, and a request will soon follow.
Step 6
Silence is also information. When a person ignores a request or does not answer the asked question, he is showing his indifference and disregard. If invitations to visit you are answered with endless excuses, it may be time to realize that this is a delicate refusal.
