The person may feel hurt. This is an unpleasant feeling that affects the way of thinking and causes negative emotions. Resentment can last for years or pass instantly, arise suddenly or grow like a snowball, be superficial or touch "to the core." Sometimes it leaves an imprint for life. To avoid the negative consequences of resentment, you need to learn how to deal with it.
Instructions
Step 1
For some people, to make it easier to endure the resentment, you just need to speak out. You need to find a person who is able to listen without interrupting or judging. The main thing is that he helps to calm down and does not build up even more disappointment in the offender. Just don't overuse kindness. Sometimes it is enough to shout at some object, presenting your abuser instead. But just do not use a mirror for this purpose. You can do this in the forest in front of the tree. If you are unbearable to cope yourself, some resort to the help of a psychologist. This technique is more like extroverts.
Step 2
Introverts are closer to "pouring" their feelings on paper. Moreover, during the letter, you need to contact the offender directly. You need to describe the reason for your anger. Lay out whatever you think of him. It doesn't matter how much time and paper it takes. Write until thoughts run out and a feeling of "emptiness" appears. Then get rid of your grievances by destroying the written paper. You can choose the method yourself, you will burn the leaf or tear it and scatter it in the wind. The main thing is to get rid of resentment together with ink.
Step 3
To reinforce the effect, write a message of gratitude. No wonder they say: "What does not kill us makes us stronger." Write how grateful you are to the abuser for providing a lesson that helped you become more resilient. Fold up the message and do the same as with the first one. After that, a feeling of calmness should overtake you.
Step 4
The famous American writer Louise Hay, who fell ill with cancer, admitted that the reason for this may be her grievances against a cruel fate. By abandoning traditional treatment, she changed her lifestyle and learned to forgive. She is now healthy. The method is to relax in a comfortable environment and present yourself in the theater. On the stage of which your abuser is standing. He is happy and smiling. After observing him, after a while make him disappear, and in his place imagine yourself. Your face shines with happiness, you are joyful, carefree. Remember yourself this way. Daily sessions will make you calmer, and resentments will melt away.
Step 5
Believers who live with God in their souls are very rarely offended. No wonder they say: "Save your heart from insults." Everyone will receive according to their deeds. But still, when this happens, you need to pray. About the salvation of your soul and those who annoyed you. After all, it is a sin on their conscience. Your thoughts must remain pure.
Step 6
There are people who are very difficult to offend. Quite often they translate everything into humor. They know how to laugh at themselves and their actions. Life is easier for such lucky ones. Maybe it's still better not to be offended and easier to relate to the actions and words of others? Then you don't have to think about how to experience grief.
