Few people think during the bouquet-candy period about what the object of sympathy is. Hormones do not allow the mind to analyze the incoming information, in front of our eyes - rose-colored glasses, a loved one is beyond criticism. As soon as the charm subsides a little, it is worth taking a closer look at whoever is next to you. Do not ignore the first alarm bells, thinking that everything will work out. People are mostly conservative and reluctant to change.
What to look for first of all:
Egocentrism
If your partner is filled with a nightingale for hours about how his day went, about his worries and successes, while not allowing a word to be inserted, defining your role as a grateful listener, you should strain. Before you, most likely, a narcissistic egoist, unable to take care of someone other than his dearest person, and does not consider it necessary.
Feeling of proportion when drinking alcohol
If, after sipping a glass, your partner cannot stop, decide immediately and radically - is this the hero of the novel? In addition, under the influence of alcohol, complexes, bad habits and hidden sides of nature climb outward. Having seen all this, it is not difficult to draw conclusions about a person.
Attitude towards strangers and animals
If your partner is showing aggression, ill will, rudeness, arrogance, or cynicism towards strangers, this is a bad sign. Most likely, he also treats his relatives in the same way, and later you will fall under this usual "norm" of relations for him.
Is he ready to wag behind the ear of your shedding obsessive cat or to tolerate the licking of a dog in a friendly manner, or maybe, on the contrary, he disdainfully avoids all living creatures and speaks of it negatively? The way a person gets along with our smaller brothers characterizes his future attitude towards children.
In addition to the above, there are many more points and nuances worth paying attention to:
- curmudgeon or spender;
- interests and hobbies (temperament and intellect);
- behavior in critical situations - mobilized or lost;
- priorities (family or work);
- principles;
- attitude to faith.
With all this, you should not choose a loved one, like a horse of noble blood, in terms of parameters and measurements. We are all human beings with our own strengths and weaknesses. One has only to clearly decide what is important for you, what you will never be able to accept, and what you are ready to close your eyes to.
