It is almost impossible to find people who would keep their beliefs, views, tastes, and habits unchanged throughout their lives. It is human nature to change over time. It is not for nothing that they say: "Who in his youth is even a little bit not a revolutionary, he has no heart, and who in his old age is even a little bit conservative, he has no mind." But what are the limits of such changes?
Why does a person change at all
Is it possible to count on the fact that a person will completely change, for example, his character, behavior, attitude towards this or that object? Each person comes into this world with only a set of unconditioned reflexes and genetic inclinations received from his parents. But as he grows up, he begins to develop as a person. In addition to his genetic predisposition, he is greatly influenced by the upbringing that he receives at home, in the circle of his closest people, at school, in the garden. It is in early childhood that the character of a person is laid, which determines his subsequent behavior.
It is on this that the old saying is based: "You need to teach a child while lying across the bench, but as it lies along, it will be too late!"
Subsequently, the child begins to closely communicate with his peers in kindergarten, school. In the course of his studies, he learns a lot of new things, gradually gains some experience, he has some hobbies and hobbies. All this also affects his behavior, views, tastes. Then, during adolescence, his character and behavior can change dramatically, but this is temporary until the hormonal background stabilizes. Etc. As a person grows older, he acquires more and more experience, changes his attitude towards people, his system of values, etc. Accordingly, he himself changes, including under the influence of other people, primarily those whom he loves and values.
How long can you change a person
However, in most cases, such changes are not too deep. After all, what was laid down in childhood is very difficult to correct. A person can be influenced to some extent for the better or for the worse, but completely changing him is almost unrealistic. Exceptions are extremely rare.
Therefore, the dreams of many people in love, that they will be able to "remake" after the wedding, that is, reeducate their loved ones, change their views, habits, in most cases remain dreams.
After all, every person is unique and unrepeatable. Therefore, he has the right to both weaknesses and shortcomings (of course, up to certain limits). And you shouldn't change it. Think, because you fell in love with a person with all his flaws. Perhaps you should not dwell on the cons, you need to pay attention to the pros of a loved one.
