Many people from time to time have a desire to change the person who is nearby. This is especially true for women. Almost every loving woman is confident that she can change her beloved man, creating a certain ideal image of him. Unfortunately, in real life this is rarely possible.
Why do you want to change a person?
The reasons why you want to change a person can be very different. Among them are all kinds of bad habits (drunkenness, smoking, passion for gambling), excessive craving for the opposite sex, giving rise to betrayal, a difficult character, too much passion for any sport or collecting, taking a lot of time or damaging the family budget.
However, one should not forget that if a person himself does not want to change anything, it is very difficult to change him, more precisely, it is practically impossible. No scandals, threats and demonstrative withdrawals will help here. Most likely, he will consider that he is not understood, loved or appreciated, and will only get angry.
Factors affecting the nature and lifestyle of a person
Yet people change throughout life. A young man can be influenced by military service, an adult, an accomplished person can change career advancement or, conversely, the loss of a job or ruin in business. A young spouse (or one of them) can become different after the birth of a child. At such moments, a reassessment of values often occurs, a person can look at his life differently, begin to evaluate his actions in a completely different way.
It is sad if the cause of changes in character and lifestyle is the loss of someone close, an accident, war or disaster. In this case, a person may be broken, lose interest in life, and withdraw into himself. True, it also happens that it is difficult, tragic circumstances that change people for the better. Under the influence of hardships and hardships, character is tempered, a person becomes stronger, thinks more seriously about life, begins to set fundamental goals for himself.
Sometimes a person can change if he wants to and understands how important it can be for loved ones and loved ones. We need to help and support him in every possible way on this path. Of course, you can try to make him want to change on his own. However, this takes time, patience and a lot of ingenuity. In addition, the desired goal is of fundamental importance: if you need to correct an obvious flaw, then this is a good and necessary deed. If the main goal is to adjust the partner to your own taste, you need to think carefully: is it worth doing? Perhaps, as a self-valuable person, he is much more interesting and multifaceted.
It should also be noted that the older a person becomes, the more difficult it is to change his established habits, lifestyle and established worldview.
In the case when we are not talking about serious vices and shortcomings, it is better to learn to love and accept a person for who he is. After all, as you know, ideal people do not exist.
