Do not be upset if you are not rewarded with innate sensitivity. You can develop tact in yourself through some work. Observe the relationships between people and be careful with the feelings of others.
Instructions
Step 1
Keep track of how relationships develop between people. To do this, you can refer to the works of world literature. Read novels, watch how the characters communicate. Books written by world-famous authors can teach you a lot. You will see how some character traits of this or that hero are connected with his actions, you will understand what words or actions lead to quarrels and breaks, how different people can react to different circumstances.
Step 2
Monitoring people's relationships is also useful in real life. Other people's actions, emotions and words will help you get to know those around you better. Over time, you will learn to predict other people's reactions. This will help you become more considerate and considerate of the feelings of those around you.
Step 3
Think about what character traits help you get along with others, show yourself as a tactful person. For example, they include kindness, attentiveness, the desire to understand the other, lack of focus on oneself, the ability to listen. You can take as an example a person you know who successfully builds relationships with people of all kinds. Think about what qualities help her in this, and try to develop them in yourself.
Step 4
Learn the basics of personality psychology. This will help you understand how to find an approach to others, how to build relationships with them, so as not to hurt their feelings. You will understand what questions should not be asked so as not to embarrass others, and you will realize what behavior is inappropriate.
Step 5
Watch not only what you say, but also how you do it. Your posture, facial expressions, and voice also matter. Your behavior must correspond to the meaning of the phrases being spoken, otherwise you will seem like an insincere person. Avoid aggressive and impatient gestures. Be polite and listen carefully. Do not look away and do not look broodingly bored.
Step 6
Be careful with criticism. A phrase that seems innocent enough to you can deeply hurt a person. You can casually drop something about the peculiarity of the interlocutor's appearance or his personal quality, and he will be very upset. This is tactfulness - in the art of creating a comfortable atmosphere around you when communicating. Don't say too much.
Step 7
Learn to be humble. Do not talk loudly in public or discuss those present with someone. Remember, sometimes tact comes down to following the elementary rules of etiquette. Understand that disclosing personal details can be unpleasant for a person.
Step 8
Think about others. Try to behave in such a way as not to inconvenience anyone. Don't listen to music loudly in your workplace. This can be distracting for colleagues. If someone is feeling uncomfortable, sad, or uncomfortable, offer your help. You shouldn't brag about your success in your career or personal life in front of less fortunate people. Your bragging might hurt them.
