Sometimes we need to ask a personal question to a person with whom we are connected not by personal, but by work or other formal relationships. What to do in this case?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to build a friendly relationship with the person you want to ask a personal question to. Sometimes for this it is enough to show the person unobtrusive signs of attention: offer to drink tea together, give a ride after work. A good way is to “go from the opposite,” that is, to be the first to start sharing some of your personal experiences. This must be done in a very dosed manner, it is important not to overdo it, otherwise your "soul wide open" can confuse and scare a person away.
Step 2
When you are doing some common cause, it is good to give the person a sincere compliment on time. In their hearts, all people love when others appreciate them, and psychology has long known a phenomenon that can be described by the phrase: "we like those who like ourselves."
Step 3
Create an appropriate environment. It is not always convenient to talk about personal topics in the office, where the work process is in full swing, and colleagues are constantly scurrying around. To ask a personal question, you need an appropriate setting. Otherwise, the person may simply dismiss your question, taking advantage of a conversation with one of the colleagues running past.
Step 4
If your question is not very significant, use the time window when you are alone with the person to whom you want to address your question, for example, at lunchtime, to ask it. In this case, you can do without special preparations. It is important, however, that third parties are not present at this moment, otherwise the person to whom you will ask the question may not answer you simply because of embarrassment. In the event that you want to ask about something really very important, invite the person to a cafe, restaurant or other suitable place where you can calmly talk.
Step 5
Say a short introduction that will instill the interlocutor in the right way. Ask your question as politely as possible, make it clear to the interlocutor that you are afraid of hurting his feelings, believe me, he will appreciate it.
Step 6
If the interlocutor does not want to answer the essence of the question, he turns everything into a joke, do not insist. Most likely, this time you will not receive an answer, and if you pester with questions, you risk running into rudeness. Give both yourself and the interlocutor an opportunity to get out of this situation beautifully. Perhaps this person himself will open up to you when he is internally ready for this.
