Some questions are difficult, they cannot be asked so easily, it takes a long time to prepare, and even then it is not always possible to ask. It is especially difficult for modest and shy people: they are more likely than others to avoid asking sensitive questions that can embarrass the interlocutor.
Instructions
Step 1
Before asking a question, think about which words to use for this. Some questions become much easier when you use soft words for them. You also ask directly, but you do not corner the person. This is a sign of respect, not weakness. Forcing someone to make excuses is a bad consequence of a tricky question, since it is no longer a question, not a manipulation. Try to ask in such a way as to get an answer if you really need it, and not to blame or convict the person with your question.
Step 2
If the matter concerns a difficult problem for the interlocutor, then before starting a conversation on the desired topic, try to cheer him up or cheer him up. When a person is in a good mood, it is much easier for him to cope with any questions, even delicate ones.
Step 3
Some questions are such that you need to ask them not in order to get an answer, but so that the person himself thinks about what he should answer you. If your problem is from this category, then tell the interlocutor right away that the question is difficult, and that he does not have to answer you right there. Generally not obliged to answer, perhaps (if such a situation). But if the answer is important to you, then tell me that you are ready to wait. So that a person does not think to evade, you should definitely inform him that you are tormented and do not find a place for yourself, without understanding the situation.
Step 4
There are questions that are difficult, first of all, not for the person to whom you ask them, but for yourself. You are in a suspended position, and you need to find out everything. At the same time, you do not want to burden the interlocutor or put pressure on him, because you are afraid that he will "send" you to the ground from a suspended state, and the blow will be quite painful. These are questions like "why don't you introduce me to your parents?" or "why are you avoiding intimacy with me?" and many others. Such questions must be asked. You can try your best to avoid this, but if you postpone such a question, you will regret not solving the problem in time.
Step 5
To ask this question, you can try one of two ways. If the first does not work out, then resort to the second, but it is better to start with the first. The first way is a negotiation table. Let the person know in advance that you want to discuss something with them. Prepare and brace yourself, find the right words. Then post the problem without delay. If this does not work out in any way or you cannot cope with emotions, then try writing a letter with a question. Hand it straight into your hands, this is the best guarantee of receipt.
