There are people who don't like to celebrate their birthdays. There may be various reasons for this attitude. Many of them are associated with early childhood.
There is a category of people who do not like to celebrate their birthdays. They may well participate in the celebration of someone else's birthday, but their holiday is perceived as something "wrong" by them.
Where does this attitude come from? What is behind the negative perception of your birthday?
Ancient people believed that coming to this world is a holiday and that the magi come to a person on his birthday. They make gifts - at the beginning of life for life, on a birthday for a year. And every new year they come and see how we disposed of their gifts, what we used for the benefit, what we did not. Whether it is true or not, we do not know for certain, but, most likely, in our deep memory there is a vague sense of expectation of something magical.
Also, a birthday symbolizes one's own birth, coming into this world, rebirth, the end of one cycle and the beginning of another. It turns out that this is a very important day.
Consider what might be hiding behind a negative attitude about your birthday.
1. Deep self-rejection.
A symbolically negative attitude towards one's birthday can mean an appropriate attitude towards oneself, towards one's appearance in this world, and the expectation of rejection of oneself by the world, by the closest people. This attitude is usually not realized, but in its own way affects many areas of life. Such a person has experienced a lack of self-love and is like a little offended child who constantly hopes that someday they will finally be loved and accepted.
As a rule, the basic acceptance or rejection of oneself is laid depending on the feelings that the parents had for the child. How desirable was he? What feelings were during pregnancy? How did the birth of the child proceed? Was it a holiday or one big nuisance? All of these points affect basic acceptance or rejection of oneself.
2. Resentment towards loved ones.
The second possible reason for disliking your birthday logically follows from the first. If a child, and then an adult, has a strong resentment towards parents, especially towards the mother, then this can also be emotionally connected with the moment of his birth. After all, the mother gives birth, and if there is a strong resentment against her, the corresponding attitude can also go to the very perception of birth. And even further down the chain, it can influence the attitude towards one's birthday, whether we understand the source of such an attitude or not.
3. Fear of change.
Since a birthday symbolizes the end of one cycle and the beginning of a new one, as well as rebirth, it would be logical to assume that a person who does not love his birthday may have difficulty in updating many aspects in his life. It is difficult for him to finish one thing and start another, he will constantly try to endlessly pull on something old, it is difficult to make a decision, to change something in life, to perform an important act. Holding on to the old, it is impossible to accept the new, to change.
4. Emotional blockage.
An attribute of any holiday is bright and strong emotions and feelings. In our case, a person, for some reason, blocks the manifestation of these emotions. Perhaps, in some situations, strong emotions will still break through, but not to the extent, and not in the same way as it could be in more favorable conditions.
We've covered the main reasons for negative perceptions of birthday celebrations. In this case, the awareness of your "reason" will allow you to change your attitude towards this event.
