From childhood, we are punished for the manifestation of negative emotions, encouraging us to be obedient comfortable children. As adults, many of us continue to wear the mask of a good girl, forgetting about our psyche. But our health and quality of life in general depends on it.
Shouting, crying, expressing dissatisfaction with a woman is forbidden even in kindergarten, because "it is not decent", "obedient girls do not behave this way." Even making frowning faces or defending against a neighbor in the sandbox is elevated to the rank of unworthy behavior. “You’re a good girl, stop crying,” they continue to educate at school. And the girl stops, gradually losing the ability to see her negative emotions. But from the fact that they have ceased to be distinguished, these emotions do not go anywhere, but are stored in our psyche, eventually forming dangerous deposits.
From the outside, the woman looks wonderful - she smiles at everyone, speaks tenderly, does not quarrel with her husband or neighbors. But inside her, a volcano is smoldering. The time is not far off when another suppressed negative emotion - anger, resentment, resentment - will become a match in a haystack.
From a once obedient girl, a woman can turn into an evil fury, constantly dissatisfied with everything, or even get a nervous breakdown when it is no longer possible to cope without a psychotherapist. It also happens that suppressed emotions first become tensions in certain parts of the body, and then - ailments and diseases. There is even a special science about this - psychosomatics of diseases. Sometimes, under the burden of unexperienced emotions, a woman can become addicted to alcohol. This is why being a good girl is dangerous.
You can't please everyone. There will always be people who will not like us. Therefore, it is better to allow yourself to be in a bad mood than to try to please others. You can say to yourself when you need to: "yes, I am in pain, disappointment, resentment" and just allow yourself to feel it. There are many ways to cry into a pillow, write your feelings on a piece of paper and burn them, share with a friend. The main thing is not to hide negative emotions from yourself, but to allow them to be.
