A dispute is an attempt to find the right solution in some issue, a way to prove the correctness of your position and the opportunity to show off your intellect. But it is important in such a discussion not to humiliate the opponent, not to go over to insults and be able to correct views.
Instructions
Step 1
You can start an argument only if you are well versed in a topic. It is not worth starting a controversy about what you know no better than most. After all, you will have to give some facts, prove your position, and without certain data it is difficult. In order not to be wrong, it is better sometimes to remain silent.
Step 2
Determine for yourself, why do you need this dispute? If for the sake of self-affirmation, do not get involved in it. Circumstances can turn out differently and you may not always be in the right light. If, for the sake of finding the truth, then it is worth trying. But be prepared that you may also be wrong, and then you will have to accept defeat, and this is humiliating. A dispute can arise between other people, and entering into it will allow the details to appear, but whether the participants in the fight need it, because their motives are not clear.
Step 3
In any dispute, it is necessary to clarify some definitions and terms. How often do people say the same thing, but they call it different names. Therefore, discuss this in advance so that everyone understands what exactly is meant. This often leads to the end of the dispute, since the terminology sometimes gives rise to disagreement.
Step 4
Give your arguments, but be short and do not get carried away with details. Details are needed only on rare occasions, and they greatly lengthen any discussion. First, state the main positions, and only if asked, add color. The clearer the answer, the more powerful it seems. Being able to express yourself succinctly in the eyes of other people will make you a very valuable conversationalist.
Step 5
Never go into insults, even if your opponent is trying to get you to it. There are disputes that turn into fights, but there is no need to stoop to this level. Do not try to humiliate other contributors in the same way. It is important to show that they are wrong, not to deprive them of their dignity in the eyes of their listeners. Respect and calmness make an argument worthwhile.
Step 6
If you agree with your opponent about something, tell him about it. A person's position can include many different things. If something you think is true, don't hide it. But object to something else. This is a very subtle move, it leads to the fact that the interlocutor becomes softer, it is easier to come to a compromise. Also, know how to admit your ignorance, if you do not have any data, you do not need to invent them. State that you did not know everything or do not have any arguments about this. Only a strong person can say that there is a gap in his education, but it’s impossible to know everything.
Step 7
Always speak confidently. The delivered speech allows you to be convincing. Do not raise your voice, but do not assert something too softly. The presentation of information should be energetic, this will help to take a leading position, win the audience to your side.
