Modesty is not a negative character trait, but in adolescence it often interferes with getting to know each other and making friends. Young men suffer especially strongly because of this feature, since society prescribes them to dominate relationships. Defeating modesty is hard enough, but you can learn to make the right impression on a girl.
Instructions
Step 1
Always say hello first and smile at the person you like. Smiling makes the face pleasant and open. People who are shy and shy often look sullen or arrogant just because they cannot smile naturally.
Step 2
When talking to a girl, do not lower your eyes. If you can maintain eye contact, you will give the impression of an open and by no means timid young man. In addition, the girl will immediately understand that you have sympathy for her. To combat fear of eye contact, practice with a friend or family member.
Step 3
Watch your gestures, facial expressions, posture, speech. When exercising in front of a mirror, get rid of anything that indicates your shyness: stop slouching, straighten your shoulders, speak confidently and loudly enough.
Step 4
Don't be afraid to tell your girlfriend about your successes. So that it does not look like boasting, talk about achievements only to the point. For example, when she needs help or advice - if you are strong in the right area, why not report it?
Step 5
Boost your self-esteem with affirmations. This is a method similar to self-hypnosis. Its essence is to surround yourself with positive thoughts that contribute to the achievement of the desired result. Make affirmations in the present tense, in an affirmative firm, without using the “not” particle and the words “no”, “never”, “stopped”, “got rid of”. If you do not follow this rule, affirmations will lead to negative results. For example, “I communicate freely with girls, I am a relaxed person” - the correct affirmations, “I am not ashamed, I stopped being embarrassed with girls” are wrong.
