There is nothing wrong or reprehensible in the fact that a person experiences fear. Even a brave man can be frightened. After all, the feeling of fear was originally inherent in man since the beginning of civilization, and it helped him survive by teaching him to behave with reasonable caution. But what if fear takes on clearly unhealthy, excessive forms, becomes obsessive, that is, turns into a phobia?
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, do not self-flagellate like: I am a pathetic coward, I am afraid of heights (or public speaking, darkness, spiders, dogs). Think about it: even world famous people, including famous heroes, have had fits of fear. There is absolutely nothing shameful about this. The main thing is not to let the fear take possession of oneself, to deprive the ability to reason sensibly.
Step 2
Try to remember what the beginning of your phobia is connected with. If you are afraid of dogs, then almost certainly you were bitten or frightened by a dog in early childhood. Try to reassure yourself with such a logical argument: after all, there are criminals among people, but this does not mean that you have to shy away from everyone you meet, considering him a villain. There are still many more good people. The same is the case with dogs: not every one of them "sleeps and sees" how to bite you.
Step 3
Do you have a panic fear of deep water? Has it been going on since the day when your father or older brother decided to teach you how to swim by pushing you into the water? Like, he himself will float, afraid that he will drown. Alas, this cruel method is sometimes practiced by not the smartest people. As a result, you were terrified to death, instilling fear in front of water. Try to convince yourself that you do not have to answer all your life for this stupid act. Swimming is not difficult at all. Try to learn to float by waist-deep or in the pool. Once you yourself understand and feel that the water is holding you, the obsessive fear of drowning will quickly pass.
Step 4
Or are you afraid of planes? Yes, many people are uncomfortable with the idea that they can be high above the ground, while moving at great speed. They are frightened by their own helplessness, complete dependence on the skill of the crew, on the technical condition of the aircraft. This is understandable and natural. But try to calm yourself down by remembering that the plane, according to statistics, is the safest form of transport.
Step 5
As a last resort, seek help from an experienced psychologist.
