The past is a period of time that is gone and will never happen again. But there could be people and events that I really liked, filled everything with meaning. And if this is not the case today, I want to look back. But returning is only possible in thought, and it hurts.
Instructions
Step 1
If something very difficult has happened, for example, the death of a loved one, parting, you do not need to try to forget everything in an instant, this is impossible. Such incidents torment a person, but it is important to shorten their duration. The most important thing is to stop looking for your fault, not to think that you could have prevented everything. There is no need to work on mistakes, look for where you were wrong. Even in the moment of mourning, refuse to think about your participation in this event.
Step 2
Take time for yourself to be sad. Someone will give themselves only a week, someone - a month or a year. At this time, grieve, cry, complain to others. Emotions need to be thrown out, not kept in oneself. You can shout, blame someone from the past, you can even hit walls or a pillow. Express these feelings in any way that is safe for you and those around you. But after this period, you need to forget all this. Decide that after the allotted time has passed, you will no longer suffer, but will continue to live a fulfilling life.
Step 3
Conduct the "beginning of a new period" ceremony. It can be anything from a tea party to a huge banquet. It's just a ritual that separates the past from the present. You can do it with loved ones or alone. The important thing is just to decide that there will be no more pain. And this is a way for yourself to facilitate this transition. Do everything thoughtfully, consciously. Say goodbye to the past, thank it for both the bad and the good. And go ahead.
Step 4
You no longer need to remember what has passed. Every time the memory returns to events that have already occurred, return back. Switch your attention to something. Better to come up with a beautiful image of a happy future and constantly move there when memories embrace. At first it is difficult to do this, but experience will help, and after three weeks everything will be easy.
Step 5
Take your time. Work or hobby leaves no time for worry. But choose the activities that you like. Enjoy what you are doing, immerse yourself in it so as not to think about the negative. You can continue your development by learning a new profession or delving deeper into your old one, improving your skills. New knowledge displaces the past, they fill the present with meaning.
Step 6
Think back to yourself in your youth. Usually active and cheerful people lose emotionality and zest for life over time. Find your old self, resume the activities that inspired you, start communicating with new people. Entering a new life, you need to smile, radiate joy, so that each next day is brighter than the previous one.
