Mental pain is so strong that in order to get rid of it, a person can consciously inflict physical pain on himself and not experience it. Pain relievers don't help, and it doesn't go away after an hour or two. The only way to deal with mental pain is to take a break from it.
Instructions
Step 1
Whatever the source of pain: breakup with a loved one, betrayal, death of a loved one - the real reason is banal and simple. It is unpleasant for you that this happened to you: they took you away from you, you were betrayed, you were not helped. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Life goes on. Rejoice when you remember the pleasant moments of an ended relationship, rather than crying over the day of the breakup. Honor the memory of the deceased, but do not dwell on mourning.
Step 2
Do not look for the guilty either from the outside, among friends, or in yourself. Attempts to replay the situation anew, the idea of "what would have happened if …" will lead nowhere. You have decided, said and done. Even if someone made a mistake, now it is no longer possible to correct it, which means that the attitude towards it and its results must be changed.
Step 3
Get distracted. Do what you have been postponing for a long time: take a vacation, go to the sea, make repairs, tidy up the garden in the country. Keep on doing, don't dwell on your grief. Use whatever means you can to distract yourself from strong negative feelings.
Step 4
Don't avoid friends and loved ones. Visit them more often and invite them to your place. They know how hard it is for you now, even if they don't show it. Accept their warmth and love, give your warmth. At least a couple of times you can cry into your closest friend's waistcoat.
Step 5
As time passes, you will become clearer both the reasons for the mistakes and the motives of each of the participants in the conflict, which led you to a state of depression. You will be able to understand and forgive everyone, including yourself, but do not rush to understand the problem "hot on the trail", or rather in the heat of the moment.
