Pregnancy is a natural process, the creation of beauty, the fruit of love, a time of endless tenderness and introspection, magic and a fairy tale with a happy ending. Unfortunately, not all women of childbearing age can respond this way about the most mysterious event in the world. And the fault is all - fears of pregnancy.
It is necessary
- - an irresistible desire to overcome your fear;
- - beloved man.
Instructions
Step 1
Before you start dealing with your scars, you need to figure it out and understand - where each of them comes from. You need to be patient, put up with a significant investment of time, effort and not rush. It will be wonderful if you call your loved one for help, it is better that it is your husband or a close friend.
Step 2
Sit comfortably, sit in front of you with a loved one whom you trust, and start telling this person about yourself. Start with your name, age, habits, personality traits, tell him where you work and what your hobbies are. When you get used to the role of the narrator, to the situation and stop being embarrassed by the listener, start asking yourself questions and answering them yourself. Imagine that your personal confessor is sitting in front of you, who will understand you and will not condemn you, who seeks to listen to you, understand and help you.
Step 3
The previous step will allow you to be honest with yourself, allow you to be liberated and find the reasons for your fears. For example: “I am afraid of pregnancy. I often ask myself: "Why am I afraid of her?" And I can't find the answers. But, of course, there are reasons, and I can guess what. I grew up in a large family. I know how to take care of children, I know everything about them, but … I don’t want to be like my mother!”. With such a simple monologue, you tell the interlocutor about your assumptions related to the place where your fear originated.
Step 4
If you are having trouble identifying the name of your pre-exercise fears, review the most likely and common pregnancy fears. Fears come from childhood: childhood traumas associated with seeing the hard-hitting process of childbirth or motherhood; parents' attitude: "God forbid, you will get pregnant!"; fear of injury to the body; books read in childhood or watched videos with an abundance of details and blood. They are most often treated according to the wedge wedge principle. If it does not help, contact a psychologist.
Step 5
We are looking for a reason for fears that come from selfishness: fear of being left alone with a small child; fear of lifestyle changes, dullness; the end of a happy free life; no patience for pain and humiliation; I love myself more than my child; lack of finance, effort, time; the desire to walk and not take care of anyone. They are treated with compulsory care for creatures that require help, affection, time, warmth and money, for example, stray animals, animals from a shelter, children in an orphanage, children of your friends with whom you need to sit or take to your home for a while.
Step 6
If the previous reasons are not about you, and the thought of pregnancy makes you associate with the movie "Alien", then you should look for the causes of fears of pregnancy in the physical aspects of self-perception. These reasons include: health problems that do not allow you to normally endure a pregnancy or give birth to a child; psychological barrier associated with previously unsuccessful pregnancies; fear of pregnancy pathologies; fear of one's own genetics (in the family alcoholics, drug addicts, we also include the fear of getting fat); fear of not getting pregnant. They are solved by looking for a highly qualified specialist who is ready to accompany your pregnancy and give birth, looking for money to solve health problems, auto-training on the topic of self-confidence.
Step 7
If you still haven't found your case of fears, don't despair. There are some more of the most uncomplicated and easily eliminated reasons for the emergence of fears: fear of something new, unknown; stories of horror stories by acquaintances and friends; unwillingness to give birth from a particular man. They decide to go on a hiking trip, climb to the top of a mountain, jump from a parachute, or marry for love.
