If you decide to seek help from a psychologist, you will be faced with a number of questions, but the main one is how to find a worthy one? How not to fall into the hands of a charlatan, who will not only "divorce" for money, but also cause psychological harm? The choice of a psychologist must be approached competently. How can this be done? What are the criteria for choosing the best? A few tips will help you make the right choice.
The first thing to start with the choice is to take an interest in the education of a specialist. Thus, you will weed out many charlatans who are ready to rip off your money. And having a diploma confirms that the psychologist went through not only theory and practice, but also personal therapy.
Another important factor is your trust in the psychologist. Think about whether you can believe this specialist your problems, establish contact with him? Do you have a feeling that he can help you?
What to watch out for:
Flirting. This does not imply communication about personal attitude - likes or dislikes. This refers to the unacceptable behavior of a psychologist: winking, as if "accidental" touches and other options for courtship. A psychologist who does not adhere to the established boundaries of psychotherapy, most likely, will not adhere to many other rules. Then how will he help you? But he can inflict mental trauma.
Free psychologist. The main guarantee of compliance with psychological rules is money. Otherwise, your psychologist acts as a benefactor, and you, respectively, as a debtor. How can you cope with your problems if you are haunted by the feeling that you owe someone?
Distraction from the session: If the psychologist allows himself to be distracted during the session by phone calls or filling out any papers, run away from him. This is a gross violation of psychological counseling. Firstly, you pay money for time, and secondly, how can you open your soul and get advice if you are not even listened to?
Categorical advice You have come to a psychologist for help to independently find the answer to your question. But in any case, do not get a categorical answer, for example: "Get divorced." A good psychologist will not dictate his opinion to you, but will ask leading questions so that you yourself understand what exactly you want.
If you feel stiff during the first session, this is quite normal. And even if your chosen psychologist annoys you with leading questions - this also happens. To help make sense of the present, it is imperative to look into the past. And, as a rule, the reason lies precisely in what you least want to remember. But know that with the help of a professional psychologist, you will definitely succeed.
