No matter how carefully you choose your social circle, it is hardly possible to limit it only to relatives and friends. Every day you are in contact with a variety of people, among them there are both nice and frankly unpleasant. It is necessary to learn how to build communication with them so that it does not negatively affect your mood and well-being.
Instructions
Step 1
Determine the reason for your dislike. Is this person rude to you, makes comments, criticizes for no reason, or do you disgust some of his personal qualities? In some cases, people are disliked because they are a reflection of your own shortcomings. Perhaps the person himself does not understand that his behavior is causing you inconvenience - tell him about it, but always correctly, without getting personal. Think about how important his opinion is to you, whether it can affect your life, or whether you just take everything too close to your heart.
Step 2
The easiest option is to limit communication with the person you dislike as much as possible. If this is a colleague, organize your work so that you meet with him as little as possible, or at least not enter into conversations. Do not allow communication to go beyond solving work issues, and if your interlocutor is deliberately trying to drag you into a conflict - calmly and politely, but firmly ask him to return to discussing the affairs of the organization.
Step 3
If you are annoyed by a loved one, it is not always possible to minimize contact. Gather your courage and talk to the person - perhaps his behavior has its own reason, explainable and convincing. Sometimes a bad relationship is based on an unfinished conflict that you have forgotten about.
Step 4
Use your sense of humor. Imagine the offender in a funny way, for example, with a piglet or in a Cheburashka costume. Answer him with offensive jokes, this will reduce the "degree" of the conflict, transferring it to a different plane. In the end, have pity on the person you unpleasant - how does he feel in an atmosphere of constant quarrels and disputes?
Step 5
Don't sink to the level of your opponent. Do not respond to aggression, bragging. Your main tool is dignity and restraint. Give him an unexpected sincere compliment, try to find positive qualities. Do not allow yourself to be provoked - in dealing with a professional boor, you will still lose, and an unpleasant aftertaste will remain. If you are embroiled in a scandal, tell them that you are not ready to communicate in that tone and end the conversation. Be confident and balanced, remember your own undoubted merits.
Step 6
A technique such as detachment helps a lot. Imagine that you are watching a movie, and you and the person poisoning your life are actors. How do they communicate, how does the actor playing your role get out of difficult situations? Try on his behavior and speech and rate how comfortable you are in this image. Remember that you are in control of the script and can arrange the scene however you like. Play several scenes in which you in turn remain defeated, find a common language with the offender, throw him into confusion with witty unexpected remarks. After such an exercise, it will become somewhat easier for you to communicate with him - you have already mentally "been" in different situations and are ready to act in the best possible way.
