Rudeness or psychological pressure - everyone has to deal with such things in life all the time. Unfortunately, sometimes the upbringing of others is poor, so they may be rude or yell at you. It is important in such a situation to maintain composure and respond correctly by responding to the aggressor or retiring with dignity.
Instructions
Step 1
It's good if you know how to control your emotions. Usually, when a person is rude, he gets lost and upset. Tears come to my eyes treacherously, my voice begins to break. It is good if you do not experience all this, realizing that the offended child is speaking in the aggressor, because adults, adequate and calm people, do not break down on each other. But if you feel that it touched you to the quick, then tell yourself that you will not let the abuser triumph. Imagine a situation in which this person is in a funny and ridiculous state, in which his words have absolutely no effect on you. The most important thing is to try to remain calm, at least outwardly.
Step 2
Sometimes it is helpful to “prepare” responses to the reactions of others if you have a presentiment that it will be negative and may upset you. Immediately imagine everything that can be said to you, and think about what you can answer to it. Try to select the most general options for the reaction, not focusing on particulars. Calm down in advance and prepare yourself not to be upset, no matter what you are told. For example, if you have several trips to institutions where you have every chance of encountering bureaucracy, indifference and rudeness, tune in to this and prepare not to get upset. Some things do not depend on you, but they also do not affect you as much as it might seem.
Step 3
In the case when you are constantly being attacked or ridiculed, for example, at work or in school, they make fun of you, and sometimes quite cruelly, then think about what makes people do it. Usually the “victims” are expected to react: avoidance, fear, confusion, sometimes even tears. So just ignore the offenders or do the opposite. “Rejoice” at an unpleasant surprise or smile in response to an offensive joke and tell the person that he also looks great today. In the absence of the expected response, people quickly lag behind.
Step 4
Unfortunately, it also happens that people face psychological pressure at home in the family. Perhaps your relatives and friends do not understand what it is like for you, continuing to convince you of something, sometimes acting rather aggressively. In this case, learn to remain calm first. You must control your thoughts and not give in to emotions. If the members of your family who are pressuring you are calm, then talk to them. Tell them bluntly that you really don't like the way they talk to you. In close relationships, it often happens that people simply do not notice that they are crossing some important line. Often it is enough to let them understand this in a calm manner, without attacking in response, and the situation immediately improves.
